<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/' xmlns:georss='http://www.georss.org/georss' xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769</id><updated>2012-01-24T15:36:06.513-05:00</updated><category term='Controvery Etta James'/><category term='hip-hop.'/><category term='roles for men and women'/><category term='Twitter'/><category term='pull your pants up'/><category term='lil kim'/><category term='Presidents approval ratings'/><category term='homophobia'/><category term='Ciara'/><category term='Single moms'/><category term='Black children and Obama'/><category term='black love'/><category term='hope'/><category term='Health Care Reform'/><category term='sexaul exploitation'/><category term='Kanye West'/><category term='mature women'/><category term='whip her ass'/><category term='excellence'/><category term='LinkedIn'/><category term='Phyllis Hyman'/><category term='Mike Arrington'/><category term='relationships black male and female relationships'/><category term='Obama election'/><category term='Blacks in the Obama adminstration'/><category term='Phyllis Hyman Triva Quiz'/><category term='Etta James and Beyonce'/><category term='Facebook'/><category term='racism'/><category term='black love in the white house.'/><category term='getting older'/><category term='oppression'/><category term='Barack and Michelle Obama'/><category term='blacks'/><category term='living life'/><category term='Social Networks'/><category term='black women'/><category term='black president'/><category term='fabulous 50'/><category term='objectification.'/><category term='Shirley Sherrod'/><category term='race and color'/><category term='tunring 50'/><category term='Pants saggng'/><category term='NAACP'/><category term='Happy Birthday Phyllis Hyman'/><category term='Birthday Tribute to Phyllis Hyman'/><category term='first african american president'/><category term='Mama&apos;s Boyfriend'/><category term='At Last'/><category term='color struck'/><category term='Tiger Woods'/><category term='President Obama'/><title type='text'>THOUGHTS FROM THE AKAZIA FILES</title><subtitle type='html'>A space dedicated to sharing my thoughts and opinions on a variety of issues dealing with the social, cultural, political and economic landscape of America.</subtitle><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default?max-results=100'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/'/><link rel='hub' href='http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>26</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>100</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-873695988796300206</id><published>2011-10-29T21:13:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2011-10-29T21:13:04.654-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='homophobia'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='racism'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Mike Arrington'/><title type='text'>Over using Racist and Homophobic</title><content type='html'>&lt;!--[if gte mso 9]&gt;&lt;xml&gt; 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it shuts down any possibility of meaningful dialogue between you and the person. More importantly, it lets the person off the hook without their ever really examining their shadow beliefs about people of other ethic groups or sexual orientation. The person quickly says, oh I'm not racist, or I'm not homophobic. And of course there are those who go a step further and say, some of best friends are....&amp;nbsp; This may or may not be true, yet, it allows the individual to skirt the larger issue, which is the benefit of white and heterosexual privilege.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;Now mind you, heterosexual privilege is an issue that I had to struggle with as a straight black women.&amp;nbsp; There was a time I felt that as a woman and a person of color, I was afforded few privileges if any, and did not see my heterosexual orientation as any kind of privilege. &amp;nbsp; However, overtime, and with some very heated discussions, my homosexual friends educated me on the errors in my thinking.&amp;nbsp; I was able to remain open to the dialogue because my friends were smart and sensitive enough not to just call me names, but engaged me in ways that allowed me to honor my feelings and opinions,&amp;nbsp; while exploring new ways of seeing and being in the world with others who had a different sexual orientation.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;Now let me be clear, I've come a long way in my thinking, but I am not at the "Gay is the new Black" stage by any means.&amp;nbsp; I still feel that when I walk into a room my blackness and the negative historical legacy connected to my ancestry enters with me.&amp;nbsp; I am at the mercy if you will, of the other person to be enlightened enough to know that I am more than my color.&amp;nbsp; On the other hand, in my opinion, when a gay or lesbian person walks into a room their sexual orientation is not immediately known or for that matter judged. Again, IMHO.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;However, I digress.&amp;nbsp; I was motivated to write this post because of the article, "Oh Shit, I'm Racist"&amp;nbsp;(&lt;a href="http://uncrunched.com/2011/10/28/oh-shit-im-a-racist"&gt;http://uncrunched.com/2011/10/28/oh-shit-im-a-racist&lt;/a&gt;/).&amp;nbsp; Mike Arrington could easily let himself off the hook by saying he's not a racist, which he probably isn't. Nevertheless, this quote from his article made me think Mr. Arrington might just need to dig a little deeper into his world view as it relates to issues of race and even class. He stated:&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;"I may be the poster child for racial ignorance in Silicon  Valley, but my motives are pure and I always have and always will do anything to help out the underdog. Frankly, I’ll invest my time in people like Will.i.am, who are actually trying to fix the problem at the root level."&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;Will i am. Dude are you serious? Rubbing shoulders with a black guy, by the way, wealthy entertainer should not excuse your "racial ignorance". Yet, this is what happens when we use language like racist and homophobic loosely.&amp;nbsp; People get a free pass and continue with their lives feeling exonerated that they are not racist or homophobic, while their negatives views and the bigotry of low expectations remain intact.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;The moral of this rant if there is one: The next time you confront someone who is expressing negative views or comments about a racial or sexual minority; don't immediately brand them racist or homophobic. Instead,&amp;nbsp;engage them in meaningful dialogue if at all possible.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: &amp;quot;Helvetica Neue&amp;quot;,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; ################################&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-873695988796300206?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/873695988796300206/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=873695988796300206&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/873695988796300206'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/873695988796300206'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2011/10/over-using-racist-and-homophobic.html' title='Over using Racist and Homophobic'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-UfcXvDuHkt8/TqyiInchbkI/AAAAAAAAAGs/tXAdVO2eBTw/s72-c/notracisthomp.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-1317915261391219303</id><published>2011-06-14T10:24:00.002-04:00</published><updated>2011-06-14T10:30:11.622-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Single moms'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Kanye West'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Mama&apos;s Boyfriend'/><title type='text'>Note to Single Moms and Mr. West</title><content type='html'>&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;This post is in response to Kanye West' new song Mama's Boyfriend.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Umjy314sQQ" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"&gt;http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Umjy314sQQ&lt;/a&gt;. Thanks Nessa for the nudge. You knew I couldn't resist.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;In  the mist of what I consider Kanye's whining, he  raises a very relevant  issue regarding the relationship between mothers and their children,  especially sons.&amp;nbsp; Single mothers stop telling little boys that they are  the man of  the house. Your child is not your boyfriend or your husband,  he's a child  and should act in a child's role.&amp;nbsp; Until he pays the  bills, he ain't the man of nothing. End of conversation.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;As  a woman who raised a son as a divorced mom, I know a little bit about  what I speak. I was very mindful in my relationship choices, but I was  always clear of a couple of things: 1) every man I met, my child didn't  need to meet 2) I was still a young woman and deserved the right to  date&amp;nbsp; 3) I recognized that it was important for my child to see me  engaged in "healthy" relationships with men. Yet, I was also mindful  that my son was taking his cues from me about how women should be  treated. I can proudly say for the most part my son his a gentleman.  Though he's hit some bumps in the relationship department, I'm proud of  the man he is becoming.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;Single moms, I'm not dumping on  you. I know it's hard navigating the whole dating thing. Especially  today when it's a real challenge for women in general to find the right  mate. That's not to say that there are not good men out there, it's just  connecting that right man with the right woman. And of course, blending  baby mamas and daddies, it can get complicated.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;The  interesting thing is men handle the situation totally different.&amp;nbsp; I   watch my son as a single dad raising his son. He is oh so clear that   he's going to have a life and the littlest Hunt just has to get on   board.&amp;nbsp; Of course the fact that L. Hunt's mom is not in the picture   makes it both easier and sometimes much more complicated.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;As  for me Mr. West, I admire his artistry and I certainly empathize with  the loss of his mom. However, Kanye was a whiner before his mother died  and he continues. I said it before, I think the brother has some serious  issues that I hope he's addressing. However, he's not the first person  to lose a parent unexpectedly, and most don't have the benefit of wealth  to get quality counseling or be able to afford the luxuries that he  has.&amp;nbsp; Now of course there certainly could be much deeper issues with  Kanye and some of his mother's boyfriends (IMJS). We all know that  little girls are not the only ones that get violated by the mother's  boyfriend or possibly even the father's girlfriend or whatever the  configuration.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;At some point we have to put a statue of  limitations on all the ways that our parents f@cked up, and keep it  moving. As someone once said, and I'm paraphrasing, "if your mom put you  on the potty backwards as a child, by the time you're are 25 or 30  years old you need to have the good sense to turn yourself around.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="font-family: Georgia,&amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;Just my two cents.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-1317915261391219303?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/1317915261391219303/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=1317915261391219303&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/1317915261391219303'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/1317915261391219303'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2011/06/note-to-single-moms-and-mr-west.html' title='Note to Single Moms and Mr. West'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-825628135713997179</id><published>2010-12-09T17:02:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2010-12-09T17:02:13.302-05:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Facebook'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Social Networks'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='LinkedIn'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Twitter'/><title type='text'>Social Networks: What Good Are They?</title><content type='html'>&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TQFRVm4aUYI/AAAAAAAAAGc/c2gJjESX6aA/s1600/social-networking-guidelines1.gif" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="200" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TQFRVm4aUYI/AAAAAAAAAGc/c2gJjESX6aA/s200/social-networking-guidelines1.gif" width="178" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;I received a rather lengthy rant from a colleague stating that they   were closing all their social networking accounts (FB, Linkedin and   Twitter) because the networks were a waste of time. The person went on   to say, that in a time of recession, tax breaks for the wealthy, a   dysfunctional federal government and two wars, folk are wasting time,   talking about music, art and senseless stuff.&amp;nbsp; I hear my friend loud and   clear. We are indeed in the worse economic and political climate of my   life time.&amp;nbsp; And yes, there's lots of over sharing and senseless banter   that goes on with social networking sites. But like most things in the   world, there is good and bad, and it's up to individual user to  discern  what works and doesn't work.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I'd like to offer a   different take. I possess a wide array of interests which social and   economic matters are an integral part. However, arts, cultural,   spiritual uplift are equally important to my functioning as a whole   person. The opportunity to interface with people from around the world   on a variety of topics, ranging from nuclear disarmament to Nicki Minaj,   I find extremely fulfilling. More important, it provides a break from   the daily grind of what for me is very difficult economic time.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;LinkedIn   provides a space for to me to interface with those who I share&amp;nbsp;  similar  professional interests. Twitter allows me in 140 characters to  get  links to news, jobs, music and yes, up to the minute analysis of  the  RHOA or the BET awards.&lt;br /&gt;Facebook, where I admit, I probably  spend  more time than I should, provides me with a cornucopia of  knowledge on  range of topics that feed my all over the place mind. I  get spiritual  food and uplift from people all of the U.S and some  foreign countries.&amp;nbsp;  I'm linked to people and diverse ideas that would  take me; a somewhat  shy, reserve person, several life times to  accomplish in real time.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;In  my opinion, social networking  creates the opportunity for us to move  beyond the normative cultural  practice made popular at the turn of the  century by author, Robert  Putnam called, "Bowling Alone". Now I get to  come to the playground  with a diverse group of people that transcends  race, class, gender and  national origin in a space that though far from  safe, tends to be much  more none threatening. I love my FB kin as I have  come to call them. I  check in on them and they on me, if we're M.I.A  for more than a day a  two.&amp;nbsp; We nurture and encourage each other, laugh,  cry and celebrate  with each other. We are all clear that though this is  cyberspace and  not everything we read is true or real, our connections  are no less  valuable.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The long term implications of  social networking  remains to be seen. However, in the meantime, I will  continue to  engage. I suggest to my friend not to disconnect, but much  like in the  real world, be more selective about the kinds of friends  he/she  surrounds themselves with.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Just my two cents.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;﻿&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-825628135713997179?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/825628135713997179/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=825628135713997179&amp;isPopup=true' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/825628135713997179'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/825628135713997179'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2010/12/social-networks-what-good-are-they.html' title='Social Networks: What Good Are They?'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TQFRVm4aUYI/AAAAAAAAAGc/c2gJjESX6aA/s72-c/social-networking-guidelines1.gif' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-307184574900776808</id><published>2010-10-27T15:49:00.001-04:00</published><updated>2010-10-27T15:57:09.170-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='relationships black male and female relationships'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='roles for men and women'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='oppression'/><title type='text'>Pt: 1 Reconciling the Contradictions: Adapting to a World We Didn't Make</title><content type='html'>&lt;b&gt;My Standpoint:&lt;/b&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I speak from the standpoint of a womanist/feminist,  heterosexual woman that admires and respects men, especially black men. I  can honestly say that I have never been mistreated by a man.  Disappointed by my preconceived notions about what my man should be and  how he should love me yes, but I am clear that it was of my own making.&amp;nbsp; I  still maintain what some may call an unrealistic standard.&amp;nbsp; Yet, I am  clear that I am not looking for the perfect man, but a man that is  perfect for me.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; I have  managed to do most of the things I've wanted to do without&amp;nbsp; having to depend on a relationship with a man.&amp;nbsp; Would it be sweeter  with someone to share it with, of course. But life is about choices,  and I choose not to force a relationship that is not meant to be and one  in which I don't feel like my best self at least 90% of the time.&amp;nbsp;  Choices in life come with a price. In my opinion, no price is too high  for me to feel valued and loved. While my heart remains open to love and  companionship, in the meantime, I love my own company, I love being  able to make decisions solely with me in mind.&amp;nbsp; I don't consider myself  selfish, but I am oh so self-filled.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;b&gt;Reconciling the Contradictions:&lt;/b&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This blog post is not about male or female bashing.&amp;nbsp; Instead, I am offering a good dose of pull up. So brothers, put on your big boy boxers or briefs and sisters put on your big girl panties. This is about the NAKED TRUTH (i.e. self-hatred as a result of internalized oppression).&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;DuBios often spoke of the dual consciousness that exists for most black people in America and I suspect the world. That duality of consciousness often causes us to behave in ways that on the surface appear diametrically opposed. Each day we must reconcile what it means to be a person of African descent, a person of color, or a woman of color living in world whose mores and values we didn't make.&amp;nbsp; We were not at the table when decisions about standards of beauty;&amp;nbsp; what constitutes manhood or womanhood; what defines success were all decided.&amp;nbsp; Moreover, at the time, black people were only considered three fifths human. Nevertheless, as with all species, we did what we had to do in order to survive. We adapted.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As a result of&amp;nbsp; our enslavement and/or our colonization, we have had to create a blueprint for survival that is neither purely Western, nor purely African, but instead, a complex, and often conflicting paradigm of social norms and behaviors.&amp;nbsp; Many of our ancestors came from African cultures that were matriarchal.&amp;nbsp; As result of this mismatch, our relationships cannot and will not resemble those of the dominant culture, therefore, we need to stop expecting them to. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Historically, women have done a lot of the adapting and changing. Even today, a NYT bestselling author, calls on women to "Act Like a Lady and  Think Life I Man".&amp;nbsp; However, the author simultaneously says that it is  not in a man's nature to do certain things (i.e.take down his woman's cornrows). I beg the question, what  about a woman's nature. Historically, men have been hunters and  gatherers; the providers. The contextual reality based on the  evolution of culture and society has required women to work outside the  home and&amp;nbsp; be providers, caretakers and the nurturers. No where is this more true than within  the African American family, where historically the black man has been  disenfranchised from certain economic opportunities. Black women adapted and were  determined that the family survived by any means necessary. That is our  historical legacy.&amp;nbsp; It is then unfair to ask women to just turn off their take charge role when it suits  the needs of the men. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sadly, some of our adaptation has lead us to doubt our on worth as men, women and as humans. We are so out of order that black men have to ask  permission to be men. How many times have we heard the phrase," woman,  let me be a man". WTH?&amp;nbsp; Men of our fathers generation didn't have to ask  permission.&amp;nbsp; Though far from perfect, most did what they had to do to  make sure that the family was provided for. They paid the cost to be  called, "the man." More important, if a man has to ask permission from  me to be a man, his emotional needs are greater than anything I can give  him. If he has to get a permission slip from me to be what&amp;nbsp; and who he was born to  be the problem runs much deeper. Often this need for permission stems from the brother's inconsistencies as a man. Brothers have to step it up not just when it works for them, but everyday you live. We need men who are not afraid to walk as a man among men; self-determined and comfortable in their own skin. It takes self-help and healing&amp;nbsp; by both men and women to bring this about. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;You didn't see Sojourner asking the suffragist if she  could be a woman. She reminded white women, white men and even black men  that she was a woman too.&amp;nbsp; When Truth made her famous statement,  "Ain't I a Woman, she was not asking permission but reminding  America, that despite her status she was indeed a woman. She stated "that she had borne 13  children and saw them all sold in to slavery".&amp;nbsp; She reconcile the  contradictions and adapted. Though she may not be put on a pedestal like  white women, she was no less of a woman.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Mind you, there are a lot of good brothers in our community, yet they  are not the ones who get the spotlight. We must shine the light on these  models of manhood. Men who are holding it down must  reach out to those who may have never seen or interacted with a positive  example of black manhood.&amp;nbsp; Men  in general and black men in particular must be willing to reconcile the  contradictions and adapt to the current male/female dynamic. Your wife may make more money than you, you  may not have a nine to five, but can you cook, wash dishes and take care  of the children, while your wife brings home the bacon, with the  understanding that the one who brings home the bacon and often time fries it up does  get an equal vote.&amp;nbsp; This my brothers is what reconciling the  contradictions in a world we didn't make looks like. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sisters you must stop measuring your man's value and worth by American standards. We must stop shaming our men because they do not make the salary, drive the car, or can't shower you constantly with gifts.&amp;nbsp; Now I am not calling for anyone to settle, (Not advocating for you go to the prison to find your man unless that's the man you want). However, I am saying that we must be realistic in our expectations and be willing to see that the true measure of man has little to do with his bank account. The questions we should be asking are: is he a person of integrity, can I trust him, is he an independent thinker, is he willing to sacrifice his needs for the good of the family. Most of all, does he place the Creator first in every aspect of his daily living. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Now when I speak about a God fearing man, I am not talking about the one who hides behind religion and maintains archaic notions about the role of men and women. I know I'm going to make a few enemies here, but I'm ready to take the hit. A lot of the disharmony that we experience in our relationships is perpetuated by the church.&amp;nbsp; Literal interpretations of biblical references has confused the situation in many ways, rather than brought clarity. The whole notion that God put man in charge and that women should submit to the will of man often serves as a hindrance to meaningful relationships.&amp;nbsp; Sojourner Truth addresses this notion. She states:&amp;nbsp; "Then that little  man in black there, he says women can't have as much rights as men,  'cause Christ wasn't a woman! Where did your Christ come from? From God  and a woman!&amp;nbsp; Man had nothing to do with Him".&amp;nbsp; This outdated notion about who God left in charge, doesn't work. Ultimately, if we put the Creator in charge of both of us, then we can truly move forward. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;It is imperative that we a adopt a new paradigm for relationships between men and women. One based on mutual respect and shared leadership.&amp;nbsp; Complementary roles, based on strengths, rather rigidly defined preconceived notions.&amp;nbsp; This shift will require the elimination or at least the deconstruction of gender roles built on patriarchy and sustained in large measure by religious institutions.&amp;nbsp; Only then will men and women be able to engage in meaningful relationship based on mutual respect and shared power, rather than domination and submission.&amp;nbsp; Change and adaptation must come from both sides. This is how we begin the process of Reconciling the Contradictions and Adapting to a World We Didn't Make.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;(Thanks for stopping by. Please feel free to leave your &lt;b&gt;&lt;i&gt;constructive&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/b&gt; comments. Meaningful dialogue is welcomed. Part II. of this series will address the differences in how men and women select a mate). &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Wishing you pure, joy, peace and pure love!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;akaziaj&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-307184574900776808?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/307184574900776808/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=307184574900776808&amp;isPopup=true' title='4 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/307184574900776808'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/307184574900776808'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2010/10/pt-1-reconciling-contradictions.html' title='Pt: 1 Reconciling the Contradictions: Adapting to a World We Didn&apos;t Make'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>4</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-2132550647844457494</id><published>2010-07-26T22:43:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2010-07-26T22:43:55.787-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='NAACP'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='blacks'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Shirley Sherrod'/><title type='text'>Don't Throw the NAACP's Historical Legacy Out with Its Dirty Bath Water</title><content type='html'>I am as pissed as most regarding the blatant missteps of the NAACP leadership regarding Mrs. Shirley Sherrod. However, I am not willing to totally malign an organization that no matter whether we agree or disagree with its actions, it has been on the front line fighting for the rights of coloreds, negroes, afro-americans, african-americans and all of the other configurations in between.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I don't know if the NAACP is still relevant and viable to address the myriad of challenges facing our communities today. However, I think we will be hard pressed to find any organization that has not undergone a radical paradigm shift that is truly relevant for our times. Even with that, no single organization will or should try to address all the needs of the black community. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Yes, the NAACP leadership as it stands today, deserves a vote of no confidence. Yet, we can not deny the integral role and human sacrifice that those who came before have made. Yes, I know that the NAACP was started largely by white people.&amp;nbsp; It was started in response to racial riots and lynching in Springfield Illinois in 1908. It was an organization whose time had come based on the Jim Crowism that was rampant in the America South, but also permeated North, East and West. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;We can not deny the role the NAACP played in opening doors to social, political, educational and economic justice for not only black people but other minorities. We cannot deny the historic role of the NAACP's Legal Defense Fund with Thurdgood Marshall at the helm litigating and winning Brown vs Board of Education. We can deny or forget that NAACP field secretary, Medgar Evers gave his life fighting for the rights of black people.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As a child of the segregated South, my history and early activist training are rooted in organizations like the NAACP. I grew up as a small child attending meetings of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference (SCLC), the Christian Movement for Human Rights and the NAACP. I remember sitting in churches in the dead of summer sweltering with heat due to no air conditioning. Yet, my mother and others in attendance paid no mind to the heat inside, because the sweltering heat of oppression waiting for them outside was far greater. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I remember my grandfather's brand new brick home being bombed on what infamously became known as "Dynamite Hill" in Birmingham's Smithfield community. A community made up of working class black folk seeking a better life and having the Kland decide that they'd bomb and burn these homes. I guess these individuals felt that only the shotgun houses across the tracks were fitting for black folk.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As I grew older I became more radical in my political thinking and embraced the Black Power philosophies of Angela Davis and other icons of the Black Power Movement. Yet, I never lost my sense of history and memory of my earlier experiences with the more moderate civil rights organizations like the NAACP.&amp;nbsp; I can still remember my mother's words, "never burn the bridges that brought you across". There was a time in the not so distant past when the NAACP was one of those&amp;nbsp; bridges.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I write this to remind myself first,&amp;nbsp; and hopefully to remind others that we must cherish our historical black institutions that were there when we were denied access to most mainstream institutions; be they public accommodations or institutions of higher learning. Because we now have full access to most public and many private spaces, far too many of us no longer patronize black businesses, we no longer live in historically black communities, even our HBCU's are little more than an after thought in our selection of schools. As a result, many historically black communities are blighted because of black flight. In addition, there is debate as to whether we even need HBCUs in a post-racial era.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Yes, we must demand more of the NAACP and other organizations that purport to represent the interests of people of color. In addition to demanding more, we must become actively involved ourselves. If not with the NAACP, with some organized social or political cause that meets our needs and where we can lend our talent and expertise.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Even though the NAACP threw Mrs. Sherrod under the bus, let's take the high road and not throw its historical legacy out with its dirty bath water.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;###################################################&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-2132550647844457494?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/2132550647844457494/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=2132550647844457494&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/2132550647844457494'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/2132550647844457494'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2010/07/dont-throw-naacps-historical-legacy-out.html' title='Don&apos;t Throw the NAACP&apos;s Historical Legacy Out with Its Dirty Bath Water'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-8222551834430119731</id><published>2009-12-12T22:36:00.001-05:00</published><updated>2010-01-31T01:32:35.628-05:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Tiger Woods'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Presidents approval ratings'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='President Obama'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Health Care Reform'/><title type='text'>Stuff on My Mind</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="color: red;"&gt;I have been neglecting my blog posts in favor of creating YouTube Videos. Another creative outlet that I have discovered in the Third Chapter of life.  Being a very visual person and loving music, it's a medium that I enjoy manipulating.  Also, I've been rendered speechless by much of what has been going in the world of late. Nevertheless, there are a few issues that have cause me to rant or at least sit up and take notice.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: red;"&gt;Here we go:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #6633ff;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;HEALTH CARE REFORM AND PRESIDENT OBAMA:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #006600;"&gt;Health care reform has produced craziness that I think no one could have imagined.  Accusations of death panels and that America is heading toward socialism. Comparing our Commander and Chief to Hitler. Of course there have been loud cries of racism from even unlikely corners; former president Jimmy Carter.  Though I believe race is indeed a common thread it is not the only issue.  What we are seeing has more to do with the constant battle between the half and have nots.   Meaningful health care reform is an attempt to reduce health disparities.   Let's be clear, the legislation will not reduce the cost of health care.  That would require radical regulation of the both the insurance and pharmaceutical industries.  Of course this is not going to happen. Too many people have benefited financially on both sides of the legislative isle.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #006600;"&gt;If the bill passes without the Public Option there really is no reform. It's just business as usual. Millions will continue to be locked out of the opportunity to have quality and affordable health care. In the meantime, we must exercise agency over our own health. Though not a panacea, eating right, exercise and believe it or not, reducing the number of toxic relationships you have will all aid in improving your quality of health and overall quality of life. When you don't have your health, nothing else really matters.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: #993399;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;CUSTOMER SERVICE:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: #cc6600;"&gt;You would think in a time of high unemployment that customer service would improve because businesses would value your return patronage. Not. There seems to be an epidemic of rudeness. People in these positions take themselves too serious rather than the jobs they are doing and the people that keep them with a job. Now this does not refer to all, there are exceptions. However, we know the bar has been greatly lowered when we are in awe of the clerk or cashier when they ask us if we found everything we needed or if they speak to us in pleasant tone, rather than the gruff, what the hell do you want tone we so often hear. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #cc6600;"&gt;My dollars are too hard to come by. I expect the person waiting on me to at least pretend that they like me as I'm handing them my hard earned money. When I leave you can call me whatever you want. I think many would agree that customer service has almost become an ugly word. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #cc0000;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Tiger Woods-&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #666666;"&gt;Am I the only one who feels like, enough already on the TW. Tiger is a rich, nerd, dummy. Yeah I said it. He might be the best in golf, but he has failed miserably in the game of life and relationships.  I don't go along with the whole sex addict thing, but clearly dude's got major issues.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #666666;"&gt;Tiger has some valuable lessons to learn and sadly his wife and children will have to attend the classes with him.  Tiger thought his honorary white  boy status would protect him. Not. As one writer said, Tiger is the new O.J. He was allowed acceptance into main stream culture and afforded all the perks, including a "nice" blond girl (OTFL) and he showed his natural born Caublasian ass (it's rumored literally). For this my dear boy you will have to pay the price.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #666666;"&gt;Tiger, I don't know if the black community will allow you to come home in that:&amp;nbsp;  a) you never embraced your blackness  and b) some claim black women are mad because you didn't cheat with any of us.  Now I disagree with this.&amp;nbsp;  Sisters, this is one hot mess we should be thankful we were left out of.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #666666;"&gt;At the end of the day, Tiger, his wife and all his jump offs will be just fine. Everybody will get a least one check to clear. Now the rest of ua must return to more pressing matters, such youth violence, homelessness, foreclosures, health care access and our children's ability to compete in a global economy. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #ff6600; font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Obama's Approval Rating:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #339999;"&gt;Lastly, I want to speak on the drop in approval ratings for President Obama. Many of you may have heard that even the Congressional Black Caucus is giving Obama grief.  My comments on this issue are brief.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #339999;"&gt;Liberals, blacks you were not listening. The man has done exactly what he said he would do. He has made changes. Now is it change you can believe in? The verdict is still out on that one. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #339999;"&gt;Let's look closely:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #339999;"&gt;1) Obama said he would strategically pull troops from Iraq and refocus  efforts and military force in Afghanistan. This is what he did.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #339999;"&gt;2) It was only when faced with the possibility of loosing due to Jeremiah Wright did Obama remotely address the issue of race. He has portrayed himself consistently as transcending race. Let's face it, Obama probably would have won with or with black folk.  He must now repay the folk who provided him with the cheddar to get in office. More importantly, he does have to function as a servant of all the people, of which black people make up only 12%.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #339999;"&gt;3) We must not be naive enough to think a man of any race, not to mention mixed- African heritage would have risen to the level of president if the establishment thought for one millisecond that he was going to actually challenge the status quo.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #339999;"&gt;Let me be clear,  I still maintain the highest level of respect for the president and the historical, cultural and sociological significance of his presidency. I do believe that this is indeed his time and his divine assignment at this epoch in human history. And last, but certainly not least, special kudos to the First Lady of the United States, who continues to shine as a beacon of class, intellect and an excellent representation of black womanhood and the black family unit. We love you Mrs. Obama.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #333399;"&gt;Well I feel lighter having had the chance to share some stuff that's been on my mind. Hope we can engage in mutual dialogue.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #993399; font-size: 130%;"&gt;Until next time, love, peace and hair grease.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;AkaziaJ&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-8222551834430119731?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/8222551834430119731/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=8222551834430119731&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/8222551834430119731'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/8222551834430119731'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/10/stuff-on-my-mind.html' title='Stuff on My Mind'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-8646583069852637762</id><published>2009-09-23T16:07:00.002-04:00</published><updated>2009-09-23T16:10:06.694-04:00</updated><title type='text'></title><content type='html'>I remember in my mid-twenties a family member telling me I should be ashamed of myself for something I'd said. I quickly responded, "I have never done anything that I am ashamed of. I am proud to say that some 23 years later I still have the same feeling. I have no regrets about the life I have lived or the choices I've made. Now don't get me wrong, there are choices that I made that when I look back I realize I could have possibly been more willing to compromise or more open to hearing another point of view. But at the end of the day, as old "blue eyes" would say, “I Did It My Way."&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Of course doing it my way didn't come cheap. I have the bumps and bruises to prove it. I paid the cost to be the boss. What I know for sure, is that every person and every experience that comes into our lives has the potential to serve our higher good if we allow it. The problem often is we are so caught up in what is happening or appears to be happening that we miss the magic and the lesson of the moment. Now having lived a half century, I have learned how to except the bitter with the sweet and keep it moving. When I reflect back, not with regret, but bought and paid for wisdom and maturity I know I wasted a lot of time and energy on things and people that were not worthy of my time and talents. I also, know that in my often self-righteous stance, yes, I can be self-righteous at times, but I'm getting better: I now know that I could have been more willing to cut the other person a little slack. About six years ago I read a great book called, The Four Agreements by Ron Miguel Ruiz. Simply put, the four agreements are as follows: 1) Be Impeccable with Your Word 2) Don't Take Anything Personally 3) Don't Make Assumptions 4) Always Do Your Best. Without previously having a name for it or a conceptual framework, this was and is how I've lived most of my life. Which I suppose, has allowed me to live without regret. Now I must confess agreement # 2 is a really hard one on the road of life. However, once you understand that what most people are reacting to is not about you, but instead their own hopes, wishes and fears it becomes a bit easier. What I know for sure is that it is vitally important that we managed our emotions. Manage being different from controlling. When we manage our emotions, we allow them to flow, yet we are keenly aware of their impact on us personally and possibly the impact they may have on others. Given the fact that by nature I am a person of extremes; either very hot or very cold, I've learned to keep my emotional thermostat at room temperature. This allows me to manage my emotions quite well in that I tend not to go too far in either direction. Unfortunately, Queen Peri-menopause has come along and threatened to throw my emotional and body thermostat completely off course. As a result, it is much more challenging to maintain that room temperature. Nevertheless, I work on it every day. Some days I get it right and some days I surrender to the Universe and Queen menopause and pray that none of my family, friends or colleagues have taken anything I've said or done personally. (The Second Agreement).&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Initially, upon turning 50, I was feeling a bit uneasy. You see the day after I turned 50, Michael Jackson died suddenly. Then there was Billy Mays and most recently E. Lynn Harris. They say there is nothing to remind you about your own mortality more than seeing those in your age or peer group make their transition. For a brief time I found it all so unsettling. I was asking myself, what's up with all the 50 something people passing away. However, recently, I was listening to the video of blog of Cassandra McShepard (fashion designer for the late Phyllis Hyman). Cassandra made the statement that "death reminds us to live". That statement resonated for me. I realized that what I was witnessing was my wake up call to be even more on purpose about my physical and emotional well being. To protect my body temple from the crown of my head to the soles of my fit. I realized that I was literally in a fight for my very life. If I am not absolutely on purpose about how I live The Third Chapter of my life I could find myself in serious trouble. Now though I am very conscious about my eating, nutritional and herbal supplements, I'm a bit of a slacker when it comes to exercise regiment. As a result of having lost about 25lbs last two years, I'm feeling like I don't look too bad for a grandmother of 50. Confession, I've been a slacker on the exercise. This is where I will have to put in the work. If I am not absolutely on purpose about this issue of moving and exercise, I could find myself for the first time in my life, with huge regrets. Okay, I've put it out there and now I have to be accountable not only to myself but to my blog readers as well. Stay on me; I want you to, really. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;After years of self-work and some professional therapy I can see myself and others so much more clear. I absolutely love and adore the wise woman I am becoming. I step into this Third Chapter of life wiser, more relaxed, more willing to listening, able to go with the flow, whatever the flow may be. I'm realizing that at this stage of life, the only person that I am even remotely in charge of is me. Time to really exhale. Everyone is on their own personal journey toward wholeness and no one but God has the right or the responsibility to interfere with that process. I plan to ride this thing call life still the wheels come off. A wise woman once said, "Death will have to find me". When the Creator calls my number, I hope to be laughing, dancing and if I'm really lucky getting down right naughty with a fine young man that is at least 10 years my junior. LOL.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Non, je regreette rien- I Have No Regrets.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-8646583069852637762?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/8646583069852637762/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=8646583069852637762&amp;isPopup=true' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/8646583069852637762'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/8646583069852637762'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/09/i-remember-in-my-mid-twenties-family.html' title=''/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-6185285694554812482</id><published>2009-08-08T23:08:00.001-04:00</published><updated>2009-08-08T23:08:50.582-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Phyllis Hyman: A 13 Song Playlist for You</title><content type='html'>&lt;div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;object height='350' width='425'&gt;&lt;param value='http://youtube.com/v/WrbM4UcAAdo' name='movie'/&gt;&lt;embed height='350' width='425' type='application/x-shockwave-flash' src='http://youtube.com/v/WrbM4UcAAdo'/&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Dedicated to Phyllis Hyman fans.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-6185285694554812482?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/6185285694554812482/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=6185285694554812482&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/6185285694554812482'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/6185285694554812482'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/08/phyllis-hyman-13-song-playlist-for-you.html' title='Phyllis Hyman: A 13 Song Playlist for You'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-1661273078163057174</id><published>2009-07-02T02:11:00.022-04:00</published><updated>2010-06-01T08:30:13.288-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Happy Birthday Phyllis Hyman'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Birthday Tribute to Phyllis Hyman'/><title type='text'>Happy 60th Birthday to the Late Phyllis Hyman</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="color: #006600; font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;Had Phyllis Hyman been alive today she would have turned 60 years old, July 6, 2009.  Her life was cut short by a myriad of complex issues that we can only speculate about and that were probably even unclear to Phyllis herself.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;  I have been a true Phyllis Hyman fan for over 20 years.  Throughout this piece I will refer to Phyllis Hyman as simply, PH.   Her sultry contralto voice has ushered me through break ups and feelings of being head over heels in love.  Songs such as &lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_HXiO951tBc" style="color: #cc6600;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"&gt; Living All Alone&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="color: #cc6600;"&gt;,&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: #cc6600; font-style: italic;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.blogger.com/%22When%20you%20are%20in%20pain,%20excruciating%20pain%20%28emotional%20or%20physical%29%20drugs%20are%20your%20friends.%20Sometimes%20the%20only%20ones%20you%20have.%20I%20honestly%20believe%20human%20beings%20DO%20have%20a%20finite%20limit%20on%20the%20amount%20of%20pain%20they%20can%20withstand%20at%20any%20given%20moment%20or%20period%20of%20time,%20and%20no%20other%20person%20can%20tell%20another%20what%20their%20limit%20is,%20should%20be%20or%20how%20long%20that%20pain%20should%20be%20endured%22%20%28Author/Journalist,%20Jill%20Nelsonhttp://www.niaonline.com/ggmsblog/?m=200906%29." style="color: #cc6600;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;Old Friend&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;and my all time favorite, &lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vvDrkWPXnpY"&gt;&lt;span style="color: #666600; font-weight: bold;"&gt;You Just Don't Know.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;I always felt a connection to Phyllis, we share the same zodiac sign, Cancer.  Yes, sweet but very complex and extremely sensitive.  Through the literary genius of biographer, Jason A. Michael, who I feel has written the definitive and what may come to be the only biography written about PH, combined with countless hours of reviewing interviews, I have come to believe we share much more.   Like Phyllis, I have a weakness for the cafe' &lt;/span&gt;au late&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;, pretty boys with facial hair and dreamy eyes.   We shared the tendency to speak our minds and live out our convictions even when it might be to our own personal detriment.   We stand steadfast to our &lt;/span&gt;perceived&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; truths. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;  We also shared the often painful experience of seemingly not quite getting it right with intimate &lt;/span&gt;relationships&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;.  Our inability to compromise or settle and more important, our fears often being at the "heart" of the matter.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;On a more deeper and personal level, we both shared the dark demons of clinical depression.  Phyllis was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder.   I thank the Universe, family and friends and  my unwavering commitment to living in a new way, for the fact that I have not had a clinical episode in 20 years.    However, I still take one day at a time.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As a side bar I'd like to note that there is no medical test to determine a chemical imbalance in the brain.  The diagnosis is based &lt;/span&gt;solely&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; on a series of behavior traits outlined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM):  unlike the tests we have for diabetes, cancer and high blood pressure.   As a result of bad brain chemistry gone a muck, there are large numbers of people going around under and over medicated.    Now before anyone starts to slam me, I am in no way suggesting that if you are taking medication and it is working for you that you stop.   However, I am saying that in my opinion, we are not born with faulty brain chemistry and that there needs to be more emphasis given to the &lt;/span&gt;environmental&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; factors that contribute to depression and other mental illnesses.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: #006600; font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;Please excuse me while I step down from my soapbox, clearly I digressed.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: #006600; font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;PH and I also shared an intuitive quality that is &lt;/span&gt;characteristic&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; of many born under the sign of Cancer.  We tend to feel the pain of others and to take that pain very personally, often to our own detriment.   PH experienced several loses: her grandmother, then mom and  a personal friend within the span of a few months.   In addition, she was keenly aware and troubled by the plight of the world in general and the black community in particular.  She also had serious financial problems, many due to her own poor judgment and addiction. The IRS was one of her debtors. Despite the focus on PH being an uncontrollable diva, she was at her core a very giving and compassionate person. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: #006600; font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: #006600; font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As most of PH's loyal fans know, she took her life on June 30, 1995, 6 days before her 46&lt;/span&gt;th&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; birthday.   Many have speculated as to the reason for her suicide; anywhere from mental illness,  substance abuse, not receiving her just due in the music industry, failed intimate relationships, weight gain, the list goes on.   Best guess says it was all this and more.   Many question why didn't Phyllis get help, why didn't she take medication, why didn't her friends and family intervene.   The challenges PH faced were extremely complex and intricately linked.   Not only was there the possibility of losing her creative muse by taking mind numbing medications, she also was the breadwinner for a staff of people.  Though I don't know this to be fact, I doubt if Phyllis had a nice health insurance plan that afforded her the luxury of an extensive stay in rehab. Please note that according to her biography, she was in short-term rehab several times.  The time off from the road and the financial resources to get the help she needed just weren't there.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; PH saw suicide as the only way out and that it was her choice to make.   In her suicide note, she simply said,&lt;span style="color: #666600; font-weight: bold;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: #666600; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"&gt;"I'm tired".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: #990000; font-family: verdana;"&gt; &lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;Author and journalist, Jill Nelson recently offered a commentary regarding the untimely death of musical genius Michael Jackson and his possible drug addiction/lethal overdose.  She states: "When you are in pain, &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: #993300; font-style: italic;"&gt;excruciating &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: #990000; font-family: verdana; font-style: italic;"&gt;pain(emotional or physical) drugs are your friends. Sometimes the only ones you have. I honestly believe human beings DO have a finite limit on the amount of pain they can withstand at any given moment or period of time, and no other person can tell another what their limit is, should be or how long that pain should be endured" (http://www.niaonline.com/ggmsblog/?m=200906).&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;Those who knew PH personally and those of us who came to know her through her music still mourn the lost of one of the great vocal divas of the twentieth century. While she may not have experienced the records sales, she joins the ranks of great vocal divas such as Bessie Smith, Billie Holiday, Sarah Vaughn and Minnie &lt;/span&gt;Ripperton&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;.  Thanks to the  &lt;/span&gt;TV One&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; series &lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eOw5S0tv0m4&amp;amp;feature=PlayList&amp;amp;p=5B71263F75F5AB3B&amp;amp;index=0"&gt;&lt;span style="color: #ff6600; font-weight: bold;"&gt;Unsung: The Phyllis Hyman Story,   &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;a new generation of music lovers haven been introduced to the  musical genius of PH.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;While I applaud the effort, I personally felt that Unsung failed to capture PH in all her diversity.  Instead,  &lt;/span&gt;TV One&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; and the Hyman Estate, it would appear opted to focus on her emotional pathologies, rather than the kind, complex and yes emotionally troubled individual she was.   Absent was the mention of her strong social, racial and gender &lt;/span&gt;consciousness&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; and her belief in black economic empowerment.   The fact that PH gave her time, star status and resources for HIV/AIDS &lt;/span&gt;activism&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; and for the rights of women and  the GLBT community.   For those interested in a more &lt;/span&gt;holistic&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt; view of who PH was, please purchase Jason A. Michael's &lt;/span&gt;biography&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;, &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana; font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;"&gt; &lt;a href="http://www.phyllishymanstory.com/home.htm"&gt;Strength of  a Woman:  The Phyllis Hyman Story.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As we celebrate the birthday and musical legacy of Phyllis Linda Hyman, we can best honor her life and her untimely death by being vigilant in maintaining our physical and emotional well being and reaching out to those around us who may be crying out.   Be a true friend, don't wait until your sister or brother friend burst into flames before you notice they are in trouble.   Remember to take time out of each day to rejuvenate your spirit.  Be it prayer, meditation, exercise, whatever works for you.   Lastly, remember the body temple is one perfect unit connected to both the inner and outer cosmos.    Be careful how you treat your mind, body and spirit.    Love yourself and that love will radiate to others.  Glenda Gracia, Phyllis' manager and sister friend stated that it was not that Phyllis didn't know that she was loved, it was Phyllis' inability to love herself.   Gracia goes on to say that if you cannot love yourself unconditionally then you will not be able to fully give or receive love. &lt;span style="color: #6633ff;"&gt;(&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: #6633ff;"&gt;Paraphrased from Strength of a Woman&lt;/span&gt;)&lt;/span&gt;.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: red; font-size: 100%; font-weight: bold;"&gt; Phyllis Linda Hyman on this your 60th birthday we honor your musical legacy and your life serves as a blue print for how to live and how not to live.   May the readers of this posting see it as a declaration of the will to survive in spite of our circumstances. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: #993399; font-family: georgia; font-size: 130%; font-weight: bold;"&gt;HAPPY BIRTHDAY... R.I.P.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;span style="color: #006600; font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-1661273078163057174?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/1661273078163057174/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=1661273078163057174&amp;isPopup=true' title='2 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/1661273078163057174'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/1661273078163057174'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/07/happy-60-th-birthday-to-late-great.html' title='Happy 60th Birthday to the Late Phyllis Hyman'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>2</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-7147836773916674449</id><published>2009-06-30T15:12:00.006-04:00</published><updated>2009-06-30T15:35:29.551-04:00</updated><title type='text'>An Ode to Phyllis Linda Hyman</title><content type='html'>&lt;div style="text-align: center; color: rgb(204, 51, 204);"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;In Loving Memory&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;July 6, 1949- June 30, 1995&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 255);"&gt;(This ode was written on the day after Phyllis's death)&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Your smokey voice helped me through so many rough times. You gave me understanding of love lost and found, you reminded me  &lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PXUoMl8Lq5U&amp;amp;feature=PlayList&amp;amp;p=E0F5C6DC4DF36CA0&amp;amp;playnext=1&amp;amp;playnext_from=PL&amp;amp;index=32"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"&gt;"What You Won't Do for Love".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I know you must be singing in heaven with the other divas: Bessie, Sara, Billie and Minnie. All sisters taken away too soon by the bitter sweet of life that asks too much and gave too little.  It must be like a gathering of&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pgT7AyPmjfM"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"&gt;"Old Friends".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Your intense eyes, full lips and voluptuous six-foot Goddess stature left men wanting and dreamy eyed. You had them &lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K24Vj8HvSus"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"&gt;"Under Your Spell".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Your lyrics reflect both the joy and pain of love.  I so wish you had found true love &lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PamXgwsK_Lg"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"&gt;"Somewhere in Your Life Time".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Now you're gone at age 45, just at the peak of realizing your worth and possibilities.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNg5QXsZXOE"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"&gt;"You Were in the Prime of Your Life".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;On June 30, 1995, you chose to removed yourself from this earthly plane.  Life got to be too much, you&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zWSe5hKqZvs"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153); font-weight: bold;"&gt;"Just "Couldn't Take It Anymore".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Missing was a true sister and brother circle to hold and protect you when the going got tough.  Someone to insure you got the help and support you needed.  Someone to say,&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QDlZERi6QIk&amp;amp;feature=PlayList&amp;amp;p=AEA4D10DB32122B2&amp;amp;playnext=1&amp;amp;playnext_from=PL&amp;amp;index=13"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153); font-weight: bold;"&gt;"This Too Shall Pass Away"&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;You sang such sad songs of love.  Always searching for someone to love you, but never really learning to love the person within. &lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ice_5RHTjCk"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153); font-weight: bold;"&gt;"The Answer Was You".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;So long Phyllis, we love you and we honor you.&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NLKFJDDNvZk"&gt; &lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153); font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;a style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);" href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NLKFJDDNvZk"&gt;" You Refused to Be Lonely"&lt;/a&gt;.  &lt;/span&gt;May you now find comfort in the arms of God.  As long as we speak your name and play your music your legacy and shining spirit will live on.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;* copyright 1996 all rights reserved.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-7147836773916674449?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/7147836773916674449/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=7147836773916674449&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/7147836773916674449'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/7147836773916674449'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/06/in-loving-memory-july-6-1949-june-30.html' title='An Ode to Phyllis Linda Hyman'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-2264602669279594958</id><published>2009-06-29T14:35:00.024-04:00</published><updated>2010-03-12T04:22:12.085-05:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Phyllis Hyman'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Happy Birthday Phyllis Hyman'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Phyllis Hyman Triva Quiz'/><title type='text'>Take the Phyllis Hyman (PH) Triva Quiz</title><content type='html'>&lt;a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SkpI_DBU0CI/AAAAAAAAAEg/oAY7DZN5WqE/s1600-h/PhyllisH19.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"&gt;&lt;img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5353171355063078946" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SkpI_DBU0CI/AAAAAAAAAEg/oAY7DZN5WqE/s200/PhyllisH19.jpg" style="cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 200px; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; width: 133px;" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 100%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;1.  What was the name of the neighborhood where Phyllis grew up?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;2.   In what southern state does PH have ancestral roots?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;3.  Who is Phyllis named for?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;4.  PH is  from a family of 7.  What is her birth order?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;5. What is the name of the music teacher that first discovered and cultivated PH's musical talent?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;6. What was the name of PH's first boyfriend?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;7.  Who is the jazz musician that gave PH her first successful recording?/What was the title of the song?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;8.  What was the name of the band PH started in Miami?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;9. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 100%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt; What record label was PH signed with at the time of her death?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 100%;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;10. What female jazz vocalist had the greatest influence on PH?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;11.What famous guitarist played with Phyllis in the early days?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;12.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 100%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;  True or False - Vocal stylist, Rachelle Ferrel sang backup vocals for PH.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 100%;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;13.  What astrological sign was PH born under?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;14.  Name the song writer that penned the tune "Living All Alone"?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;15.  Name the 1989 movie where PH played a singer and prostitute?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;16.  What Steven Spielberg movie was PH considered for a role in?/What character?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;17.  True or False - PH was offered $100,000 to perform in apartheid South Africa in the 80's and she    refused.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;18.  Name the designer that created PH's signature fashion look?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;19.  What is the name of PH's former husband?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;20. What were the three haunting words found in PH's suicide note?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;21. What was the major humanitarian cause that PH contributed her time, talent and resources to?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: left;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: red;"&gt;Answers:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: left;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: red;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;1)    St. Clair Village   2) North Carolina 3) Her father, Phillip Hyman 4) The oldest &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: red;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;5)   David Tamburri&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;"&gt;  6) Richard Wall    7) Norman Connors/"Betcha By Golly Wow &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;"&gt;8)   The PH Factor   9) P.I.R     10)  Nancy Wilson   11)   Hiram Bullock   12) True&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;13) Cancer   14) Cynthia Biggs    15) The Kill Reflex   16) The Color Purple, in the role of Shugg Avery                       17) True  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 85%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;"&gt;18)  Cassandra McShepard&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;  &lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: red;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 85%;"&gt;19) Larry Alexander 20) "I'm tired".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;span style="color: silver;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: red;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;21) HIV/AIDS&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;* Primary source:  Biography-  &lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;(Strength of a Woman-&lt;/span&gt; Jason A. Michael 2007).&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: red;"&gt;                    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;span style="color: red;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-2264602669279594958?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/2264602669279594958/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=2264602669279594958&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/2264602669279594958'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/2264602669279594958'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/06/take-phyllis-hyman-ph-triva-quiz.html' title='Take the Phyllis Hyman (PH) Triva Quiz'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SkpI_DBU0CI/AAAAAAAAAEg/oAY7DZN5WqE/s72-c/PhyllisH19.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-1955960841202505607</id><published>2009-05-31T20:50:00.029-04:00</published><updated>2009-06-12T20:28:58.679-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='mature women'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='fabulous 50'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='living life'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='tunring 50'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='getting older'/><title type='text'>Turning 50 and Traveling Lite/Light</title><content type='html'>&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SjLn8--MZkI/AAAAAAAAAD4/XqdkknaONfU/s1600-h/edit1959.JPG"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 240px; height: 170px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SjLn8--MZkI/AAAAAAAAAD4/XqdkknaONfU/s320/edit1959.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5346590742524225090" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:lucida grande;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:100%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0);font-family:webdings;" &gt;I approach this posting with tremendous gratitude for a life that so far has been filled with tremendous opportunity and blessings.   As I approach 24 June 1959: twelve midnight, a half a century ago.  WOW! It's more than I can wrap my brain around. A life that can best be described as a roller coaster ride of the Third Kind.  I have seen tremendous highs and experienced lows that I thought I would never recover from.  Yet, with God's amazing Grace and the kindness of Angels that the Universe has sent my way  I approach this day wiser,stronger and a better human being. Be sure to checkout the video clips highlighted throughout this post.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;I&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;font-family:georgia;" &gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;n&lt;/span&gt; my youth, I never imagined myself living long.    Maybe 50, 52 at the most.  Who knows what the future holds.   However, as I step into 50,  I have a tremendous desire to live.    I have (2) beautiful grandsons who I absolutely adore.  It is my desire to see these boys grow to become exceptional men among men.   I take one day at time, knowing that each day is another opportunity to witness Grace realized and another chance to get it right.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(204, 51, 204);font-family:georgia;" &gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;What I know for sure is that none of us gets out this life alive.   I'm living every moment like it is absolutely&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt; &lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4QCXr79Rkcw&amp;amp;featur"&gt;Golden.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4QCXr79Rkcw&amp;amp;featur"&gt; &lt;/a&gt;  I'm traveling lite.   Leaving the baggage behind. Whomever has hurt me or I perceived has hurt me in their quest for self-actualization is forgiven in full as God has forgiven me.   For those who I may have hurt with my actions or words, please know that hurt or harm was never my intention.  One thing that I know for sure is that every person and event has the potential to serve my higher good if I let it.   Turning 50 and traveling lite means just that.   No baggage, (&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IRZ2s_VMffQ"&gt;Bag Lady be gone) &lt;/a&gt;no pain.   Just pure Joy.  I know that there is only One Presence, One Power: God the Good, the Omnipotent, the Omniscient, the Omnipresent.  Everything else is a manifestation of my own faulty thinking. My E.G.O. ( Easy God Out).&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(255, 204, 51); font-weight: bold;font-family:trebuchet ms;" &gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As I navigate through this 50th year, I want to be more selective in how I choose to use my time, talents and energy. Careful about the people I allow to occupy my time, energy and space. These days I live for &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 102, 0); font-family: trebuchet ms;" href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GcyzBt4YTE0"&gt;Love Alone.  &lt;/a&gt;  &lt;span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102); font-weight: bold;font-family:trebuchet ms;" &gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Though the essence of true unconditional love from that special man has not found me as yet,  I give thanks for all the wonderful men who have come into my life and taught me so much.  I'd like to give a special thanks to my former husband who gave me a wonder son who has went on to become my greatest teacher. (Love you Nico).   A special thanks to the late, Reginald Renaldo Williams for guiding me through my mid-life journey. R.I.P., I love you baby. Mad props to the late Brother Jahti Jackson Maasai for showing me what a real warrior King looks like.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102); font-weight: bold;font-family:verdana;" &gt;&lt;br /&gt;As I move forward... My desire is to listen more and talk less.    I hope my life reflects a life that has been spent in service to others; especially our youth.  Though my journey has not yielded a lot of material success, I thank God for a life well lived.    A life spent in service to humanity and for  the cause of social, economic and environmental justice. &lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 102, 0);"&gt;GREEN FOR ALL!!!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(102, 51, 102); font-weight: bold;font-family:trebuchet ms;" &gt;As I move forward it is my hope that I will continue to serve humanity and provide wisdom to the young.   None of us gets out this journey alive.  I'm going to ride this thing called life until the wheels fall off.   In the meantime, I'm FABULOUS, 50 and traveling L.I.T.E. (Loving, Inspired, Tenacious and Enduring). Keeping the faith and sharing light and love. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;  &lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 0, 0);font-size:180%;" &gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:trebuchet ms;" &gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Wishing you love and best Intentions,&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt; &lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;font-family:trebuchet ms;" &gt;AkaziaJ (a.k.a. junee').&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-1955960841202505607?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/1955960841202505607/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=1955960841202505607&amp;isPopup=true' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/1955960841202505607'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/1955960841202505607'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/05/turning-50-and-traveling-litelight.html' title='Turning 50 and Traveling Lite/Light'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SjLn8--MZkI/AAAAAAAAAD4/XqdkknaONfU/s72-c/edit1959.JPG' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-3278487224517079713</id><published>2009-05-06T20:10:00.037-04:00</published><updated>2009-05-23T21:57:00.129-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='black women'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='objectification.'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Ciara'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='lil kim'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='sexaul exploitation'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Barack and Michelle Obama'/><title type='text'>The Objectification of Black Women: From Michelle Obama to  Lil' Kim</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-style: italic;font-family:trebuchet ms;" &gt;It has been a minute since I posted a blog.   I have been listening more to what others have to say.   I feel that being a good listener is critical to being a good writer.   It was my hope that this post would be brief,  however, I must say that when the Divine touches my pineal gland, thoughts and words rapidly flow to the tips of fingers and on to the keyboard.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-family:trebuchet ms;" &gt;     &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-style: italic;font-family:trebuchet ms;" &gt;Let me begin by acknowledging that I am well aware that women in general are objectified and that black men are  objectified as well.  The focus here is on black women.    I would also like to point out that black women have made significant strides in all areas; home, work and community. That said, sit back and take this ride with me.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Now I know many of you may immediately become alarmed that I am using Michelle Obama and Lil' Kim in the same sentence.    However, we must give   Lil' Kim her props, she brought it on DWTS.   In fact, it was LK that inspired me to write this blog post.      Lil' Kim played the Becky (White girl) role to the max.    She had the language, the gestures and even the misty doe eyed Barbie look.    Yet, in spite of this and the fact that she did a great job to have not had prior ballroom dancing experience, she was still reduced to raw sex appeal and the girl with the "bionic booty".    Yes,  Lil' Kim has in large part has been duplicitous in this objectification of black women, but we will speak to internalized oppression later.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;From FLOTUS ( First Lady of the US) to Lil' Kim black women are seen as sexualized beings, rather than the complex, multifaceted human beings that we are.   Even the FLOTUS, despite being Princeton and Harvard educated, a loving mother and devoted wife can not escape an obsession with her biceps  and buttocks.   Many would argue that the feminization of the first lady is a welcomed change from what usually happens with black women.   While I too celebrate the fact that  Michelle has chosen to focus on her role as loving wife and mother, I think the media in some way trivializes her role when they focus almost exclusively on what she's wearing and if she is showing her arms.  By the way,  loved CAC's  (Commander and Chief)  joke about the FLOTUS  right to "bare arms".&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Historically, black women have been objectified and dehumanized.    Archetype  female representations such as Jezebel, Sapphire and more recently compliments of "hip hop", stank hoe, chicken head, gold digger etc.     It is true that white women are equally objectified, however, their images tend to be that of virtuous, pure and even slightly frigid, while black women have been portrayed as  innately   promiscuous, seductive, alluring or lewd.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;One of the most heinous examples of the sexual objectification of black womanhood was seen in the 19th century with &lt;a href="http://www.boston.com/ae/theater_arts/articles/2008/05/11/african_bodies_of_evidence/"&gt;Saartjie Baartman, The Hottentot Venus&lt;/a&gt;.   Put on display in a circus for her large buttocks and labia, the Hottentot Venus could not  escape sexual objectification and humiliation even in death; her skeleton, genitals and and brain were placed on display in a Paris museum until 1974.   Upon his  election as president of SA in 1994,  Nelson Mandela petitioned the French government to have her remains returned.  Baartman was returned to her homeland of  South Africa in 2002.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Women's suffragist, Sojourner Truth asked in the 19th century, "Ain't I a Woman".    It was   only recently that the  works and deeds of this inspiring leader of women of all races was honored with a bust of her likeness that will be displayed at Emancipation Hall at our nation's capitol.  It is also worth noting that it is the  first image  of a black woman to grace our nation's Capitol.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Venus and Serena Williams, the best in the world of  tennis bar none in my humble opinion are constantly referred to by their brute force and of course Serena's ass.     Seldom does anyone mention that these talented women are also entrepreneurs and are fluent in several languages.    The most of what we hear aside from the physical/sexual presence is that they grew up on the mean streets of Crenshaw in LA.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To think that  the first woman to win a best actress academy award was Halle Berry for Monsters Ball.    Berry  played a tricked out grief stricken, drug addicted mother, who look to Billy Bob Thornton to make her "feel good"  in a very sexually explicit down right trashy sex scene.   This is in no way intended to demean or minimize the talents of Ms. Berry, however, I argue this was not her best performance.  But it fed into the historical stereotypes of black womanhood.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sadly, the sexual objectification is most prevalent in some facets of hip hop music.  Far too many music videos and rap lyrics are laced with misogynistic representations that further perpetuate negative stereotypes of black womanhood.  As I stated earlier some black women have been duplicitous in this sexual objectification.    Lil Kim along with fellow female rappers like Remy Ma and Foxy Brown to a name a few. These misguided young sisters believe that they are  hip-hop feminists in that they are claiming their sexuality.   Lil' Kim has so internalized her oppression at the hands of mainstream America as well as the world of hip-hop that she has mutilated herself with surgery and skin bleaching to the point that she is almost unrecognizable as her former self.    LK and MJ  could indeed be the poster children for self-hatred and internalized oppression.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Most recently, we see the talented Ciara in a music video with none other than I knew nothing about the "wardrobe malfunction" - Justice Timberlake.    As black people have spent our whole life trying to break the chains of white oppression and now a black woman is allowing a white boy to sexually objectify her in her own video.  You draw your own conclusion, check out the article and video &lt;a href="http://www.soulbounce.com/soul/2009/03/how_can_justin_timberlake_still_objectify_black_women_and_get_away_with_it.php"&gt;Love, Sex and Magic&lt;/a&gt; .    Not to appear to pick on Ciara,  I must say that lady Beyonce' needs to balance her act as well.   I have no objection to the celebration of the female black body in all it's beauty.    All I'm saying is &lt;a href="http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/search?updated-min=2007-01-01T00%3A00%3A00-05%3A00&amp;amp;updated-max=2008-01-01T00%3A00%3A00-05%3A00&amp;amp;max-results=3"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold;"&gt;"Back That Thang Up".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;While I strongly believe in personal responsibility, I must also acknowledge that white men still control the distribution of what we see and hear on the air ways.  Nevertheless, as a community and one of the largest&lt;br /&gt;U. S. consumer groups, we can collectively change our images by not buying or supporting products that demean our people as whole and our most priceless jewel, our women.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Well, as I rap up my latest rant, I close by simply saying, we've  come a long way from the out house to the white house, and we've still got a long way to go.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.boston.com/ae/theater_arts/articles/2008/05/11/african_bodies_of_evidence/"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-3278487224517079713?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/3278487224517079713/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=3278487224517079713&amp;isPopup=true' title='3 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/3278487224517079713'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/3278487224517079713'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/05/objectification-of-black-women-from.html' title='The Objectification of Black Women: From Michelle Obama to  Lil&apos; Kim'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>3</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-3326413213537058146</id><published>2009-03-28T18:24:00.023-04:00</published><updated>2009-04-10T00:16:41.269-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='race and color'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='color struck'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Blacks in the Obama adminstration'/><title type='text'>African Americans in the Obama Administration: The Brown Paper Bag Test</title><content type='html'>&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/Sc6pWwRGp0I/AAAAAAAAADo/DnS5X63C-XY/s1600-h/Obama+Appointees.jpg"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 123px; height: 123px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/Sc6pWwRGp0I/AAAAAAAAADo/DnS5X63C-XY/s200/Obama+Appointees.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5318374418349991746" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"&gt;Now I know with the state of the economy and US foreign policy there probably are  a lot more important things I could be writing about.   Well I figure there are enough bloggers out there to keep up on those issues.     I've held off on writing this piece for about a month now. Yet, it still had a nagging presence and I just had to get it off my chest.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"&gt;Has anyone else noticed that the hand full of African Americans Obama has selected for post within the administration, all  pass the brown paper bag test.  In case there might be one or two white people reading this or some black person who has really been sheltered, see the urban dictionary's  definition of  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a style="font-family: trebuchet ms;" href="http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=brown+paper+bag+test"&gt;brown paper bag test&lt;/a&gt;&lt;a style="font-family: trebuchet ms;" href="http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=brown+pa"&gt;.   &lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"&gt;The long and short of it is , back in the olden days and maybe even today,  if you were darker than a brown paper bag you were not considered an acceptable member of the black elite.     Of course there were exceptions: Madame C. J. Walker,  a self- made millionaire broke through the intra-racial color barrier.    We all know enough money can get you pretty much anything you want.     Remember Pele' bought himself white racial status in Brazil.  The phenomenon is even present in Atlanta politics.  Despite the fact the city has had a black mayor since the 1970's, there has never been a dark skinned mayor.  Maynard Jackson, Andrew Young, Bill Campbell and Shirley Franklin all easily pass the brown paper bag test.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"&gt;But back to the matter at hand.       As I look at the African Americans that have been appointed to prominent positions;  I'm not talking about the brother who shoots hoops and was his personal assistant on the campaign trail.      I'm talking about the real movers and shakers.       Let's run down the list:  Eric Holder&lt;br /&gt;(Attorney General),   Melody Barnes (Domestic Policy Advis0r), Valerie Jarrett (White House Senior Advisor), Rob Nabors  (OMB Director),   Susan Rice (Foreign Policy Adviser), Lisa Jackson ( Director of EPA), Desiree Rogers (White House Social Secretary).     All of these individual fall in to the category of light or at least brown  skinned.   Definitely passing the brown paper bag test.     If I missed a Kwame Kilpatrick kind of dark skinned  person please bring it to my attention.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"&gt;I know by now you are yelling at me saying, "but his wife is dark skinned.    Yeah that's right.    He indeed selected a  highly educated, chocolate sister with strong ties to the Chicago community, which certainly didn't hurt in giving him the "hood cred" he needed to build his political career on the Southside of Chicago.      Which makes this seeming slight of more darker skinned African Americans for his cabinet even more disturbing.      It can't be said that in 2009  dark skinned blacks aren't just  as smart and educationally advanced as lighter skinned blacks.     So what's up.       Could this be a part of the post-racial, Obama era.      Is it necessary that Obama appoint individuals to his cabinet who like him,  are not perceived as threatening to white people as darker skinned blacks.       Could it be that we are not as advanced as we would like to think.  There were a lot a people who weren't feeling Michelle in the beginning.     They wanted to paint her as the angry black women and anti-American.     Now since she's the First Lady, they obsessed over her sleeveless arms and her taste in fashion: all but kissing her black ass.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"&gt;Now I know many of your are saying that the light skinned/dark  skinned debate is antiquated and reflects narrow thinking.      In a perfect world where race and representation all shared an equal playing field, I would be in full agreement.    However, there are studies that suggest that internalized racism is alive and well even in our children.    Kiri Davis,  a seventeen- year old film student demonstrated this in her  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a style="font-family: trebuchet ms;" href="http://www.finalcall.com/artman/publish/article_2919.shtml"&gt;"doll test"&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"&gt;   , the test was a recreation of the doll test performed in the 1950's by &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a style="font-family: trebuchet ms;" href="http://c250.columbia.edu/c250_celebrates/remarkable_colum"&gt;husband and white psychologist,  Kenneth and Mamie Clark.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"&gt;    The  2006 doll study had  results that were similar to the 1950's study.   The children thought  the white dolls were prettier and preferred playing with the white dolls rather than the black dolls.&lt;/span&gt; A more recent ABC study done post-Obama shows the numbers closer and that a broader range of ethnicities.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"&gt;Nevertheless, young children's  views of power and beauty still seemed to be shaped by the perception that the white person is the person most likely to be in charge or to be rich.  Our youth still believe that to excel academically or speak the King's English means you are "acting white".  So in spite of Oprah, Obama,  Ben Carson, Beyonce,  and Jay Z,  internalized racism still exists.   What message does it send to our children who now believe they can become president, when they look at the staff of the Commander and Chief and there  is not a single dark skinned face in the bunch.   Am I jumping to conclusions?  Being just plain petty, or  could Obama actually be &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a style="color: rgb(255, 102, 0); font-family: trebuchet ms;" href="http://www.weneedtostop.com/2008/06/color-struck.html"&gt;" color struck"&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(255, 102, 0);font-family:trebuchet ms;" &gt;   &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"&gt;to borrow a term from Zora Neal Hurston.     I welcome your feedback.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-3326413213537058146?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/3326413213537058146/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=3326413213537058146&amp;isPopup=true' title='2 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/3326413213537058146'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/3326413213537058146'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/03/african-americans-in-obama.html' title='African Americans in the Obama Administration: The Brown Paper Bag Test'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/Sc6pWwRGp0I/AAAAAAAAADo/DnS5X63C-XY/s72-c/Obama+Appointees.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>2</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-9065327164471421466</id><published>2009-03-28T16:36:00.009-04:00</published><updated>2009-08-18T00:11:24.624-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Thoughts on Death and Dying</title><content type='html'>My last remaining blood elder pass away several months ago.    She was my moms only sister.  My mom passed away about 10 year ago.  While of course it's always sad for the survivors for a love one to transition, the person is in a better place in every regard.  And as we stand on the nadir of our economic and possibly social and moral epoch, I feel certain that Aunt Clay is in a better place.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;They often say that weddings and funerals bring out the worst in family members;  for this reason as a rule I attend neither weddings or funerals.  Of course when it's a close relative it's kind of hard to avoid.  The rest of my family made its way to B'ham and are prepared for the pomp and circumstance of a funeral.   My Aunt has requested a grave side service.  I don't what this means, but anyway.  I waited for the roads to clear up because there had been horrible storms here in Atlanta and neighboring Alabama.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;My dislike of funerals is rooted in my childhood when it seems I attend so many funerals of people that were really important in my life.  It would always leave a deep sadness within me.  The process itself seemed morbid.  Of course as a young child I lacked the vocabulary to articulate my dislike for the process.   More importantly, as a child, nobody gave a damn about what you might be feeling.  You just went along with the process and kept whatever it was you were feeling safely locked within your inner sanctum.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I don't attend weddings for somewhat different reasons but in some ways the same reasons.  I married at 19 and the wedding felt like a fairy tale.  Of course there is always the day after and the day after that.   I remember crying at my sisters wedding who married several years after I did.  At first I attributed my tears to the fact that I was about 4 months pregnant at the time.   Later I would realized that it was because I felt a profound sense of  disappointment from my own experience, that a day that can start out so beautiful can go oh so wrong.  Her fairy tale lasted much longer than mine, but the end result was still the same.    The Prince eventually turned into a frog.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I digress.   Back to the issue of death and dying.   I have come to realize that the grieving process is a very selfish process.    Instead of our viewing death as a natural progression of living those of us left view it as abandonment.  We think mostly of ourselves.   Our unfinished business with the person or our guilt that we didn't do more or that we didn't say all we wanted to say.   Well thankfully, I have a very different idea.   I try each day to show those who I profess to love, love in action. Now of course none of us can love the way folk think we should  love.  We can only love within our capacity.   Some of us have a capacity so wide and consuming that it can literally suffocate the receiver.  Others of us are so emotionally detached from our authentic feelings that it's almost impossible to love another person because we don't love ourselves.  Of course there is another kind of person, who is so self-absorbed that it is difficult for the person to see beyond their own self interest and needs.   All of us possess the potential to be any of these types.   It's finding the balance that allows us to love healthy and be fully present for the object of our love without being over baring.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;When I leave this earthly plane it is my desire that I sleep away quietly without fanfare and hopefully limited or no pain.  I don't want a funeral or that those left behind to feel sorry for me and more important to feel sorry for themselves.   I hope they will know that I lived a full life with plenty of laughter and joy.  That I always saw the glass as half full no matter how difficult things got.   That they will know that even as I breathe my last breath I visualized a world of laughter, dancing and love.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;And so it is.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-9065327164471421466?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/9065327164471421466/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=9065327164471421466&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/9065327164471421466'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/9065327164471421466'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/03/thoughts-on-death-and-dying.html' title='Thoughts on Death and Dying'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-9010373908727182345</id><published>2009-02-26T18:58:00.008-05:00</published><updated>2009-02-26T20:52:08.438-05:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='black love in the white house.'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='black love'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Barack and Michelle Obama'/><title type='text'>Black Love in the White House</title><content type='html'>&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/Sac46MTFzKI/AAAAAAAAADY/nyOj5EjN1Ok/s1600-h/m%26+b++black+love.htm"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 219px; height: 320px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/Sac46MTFzKI/AAAAAAAAADY/nyOj5EjN1Ok/s320/m%26+b++black+love.htm" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5307273258264284322" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;In the absence of black love on movie screens, music videos and magazines, there is black love.     At a time when it is more likely to find a real representation of a unicorn than black love, black love is in full effect in the most unlikely place: the White House.    President Obama and his beautiful wife Michelle bring black love into full view for all to see.    Many European Americans seem to think that black love has never existed. Their reference for black love or the absence of black love is framed by slavery and more recently the often misogynistic representations seen in rap music videos.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;For those of us who still have memory of when momma and daddy loved each other, when daddy would give mom a kiss on the cheek or a pat on the rear as he went off to work, black love is not a novelty.   However, for many African Americans and main stream America, the Cosby Show was the first glimpse of black love within families.   Not since Cosby and Phylicia Rashad has there been such a positive representation of black love and relationships.    The blessing is that,  Mr. President and the first Lady are not characters on a TV screen.  They are real people, who know the price one must pay to maintain family, profession and now the highest office in the land.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The first family offers the opportunity to deconstruct the view of black male/ female relationships and to transform the meaning and representation of  black love.   President Obama seems to have the ability to step outside his position of power and give props to the mother of his children and his life partner.    The Obamas appear to have loved themselves beyond their respective Ivy League degrees, and career accomplishments to find a Love Supreme.    This is indeed a revolutionary act.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;President Obama and Mrs. Obama present a new vision of love,  not just black love, but for all America.   The first lady acknowledges that theirs is not a perfect marriage, but that they share a commitment to making it work.     In photo after photo we see the Obamas with a look of love, respect and mutual admiration that is hard to fake.   There is  no doubt that there will be plenty of love and love making between the sheets at 1700 Pennsylvania Avenue for the next four years. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As the first family navigates its way through the next four or hopefully eight years, we must keep them in our prayers and intentions that their union will continue to grow stronger with each passing day and each new challenge,  and that at the end of the Presidency,  they will be more in love than ever.   I dedicate this song by Oleta Adams to Mr. &amp;amp; Mrs. Obama. &lt;a style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);" href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yDRXIHbNolQ"&gt;"Just Before I Go to Sleep".&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;There are many examples of black love all around us.  We only need shut off the negative images of black relationships that bombard us and look around us to our parents,  sisters and brothers and friends who have shared a union of black love for 25-50 years or more.    Is black love easy, of course not;  nothing worth having ever is.  Yet  if we are to rescue the souls of our children from consumerism, narcissism, and greed, love with be the healing balm that will re-unite and heal our families, our communities and our nation.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold; color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"&gt;BLACK LOVE IN FULL EFFECT!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-9010373908727182345?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/9010373908727182345/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=9010373908727182345&amp;isPopup=true' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/9010373908727182345'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/9010373908727182345'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/02/black-love-in-white-house.html' title='Black Love in the White House'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/Sac46MTFzKI/AAAAAAAAADY/nyOj5EjN1Ok/s72-c/m%26+b++black+love.htm' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-2458542429292312868</id><published>2009-02-20T17:03:00.001-05:00</published><updated>2009-02-20T17:05:22.828-05:00</updated><title type='text'>50th  Virtual Birthday Bash!!!</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="font-weight:bold;"&gt;Dear Friends:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I need your help in creating a world wide day of celebration for folk born June 24, 1959.  We turn 50 this year.  While sipping a little Chardonnay I thought what fun it would be to create a virtual birthday bash for people celebrating their 50th birthday this year around the world.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Using the power and reach of the Internet, all I ask is that you circulate this message among your many social and personal networks.  Have folk email me and give their input as we Cancerians  recognize a half century of loving, laughing and living.  My goals is to create a network of folk who want to create a vision for our shared celebration.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Emails to: divagodd6@yahoo.com.  Let's get this party started!!!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-2458542429292312868?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/2458542429292312868/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=2458542429292312868&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/2458542429292312868'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/2458542429292312868'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/02/50th-virtual-birthday-bash.html' title='50th  Virtual Birthday Bash!!!'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-7855032433269840340</id><published>2009-02-07T21:48:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2009-02-08T13:07:17.623-05:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='At Last'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Controvery Etta James'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='whip her ass'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Etta James and Beyonce'/><title type='text'>Etta James and Beyonce: No Fool Like and Old Fool</title><content type='html'>&lt;meta equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"&gt;&lt;meta name="ProgId" content="Word.Document"&gt;&lt;meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 9"&gt;&lt;meta name="Originator" content="Microsoft Word 9"&gt;&lt;link style="font-family: trebuchet ms;" rel="File-List" href="file:///C:/DOCUME%7E1/user/LOCALS%7E1/Temp/msoclip1/01/clip_filelist.xml"&gt;&lt;!--[if gte mso 9]&gt;&lt;xml&gt;  &lt;w:worddocument&gt;   &lt;w:view&gt;Normal&lt;/w:View&gt;   &lt;w:zoom&gt;0&lt;/w:Zoom&gt;   &lt;w:donotoptimizeforbrowser/&gt;  &lt;/w:WordDocument&gt; &lt;/xml&gt;&lt;![endif]--&gt;&lt;style&gt; &lt;!--  /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal 	{mso-style-parent:""; 	margin:0in; 	margin-bottom:.0001pt; 	mso-pagination:widow-orphan; 	font-size:12.0pt; 	font-family:"Times New Roman"; 	mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} a:link, span.MsoHyperlink 	{color:blue; 	text-decoration:underline; 	text-underline:single;} a:visited, span.MsoHyperlinkFollowed 	{color:purple; 	text-decoration:underline; 	text-underline:single;} @page Section1 	{size:8.5in 11.0in; 	margin:1.0in 1.25in 1.0in 1.25in; 	mso-header-margin:.5in; 	mso-footer-margin:.5in; 	mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 	{page:Section1;} --&gt; &lt;/style&gt;  &lt;p class="MsoNormal"  style="margin-bottom: 12pt;font-family:webdings;"&gt;There's "no fool like an old fool" and "imitation is the highest form of flattery" are phrases I have heard throughout my childhood.  However, I never thought it would be attached to some of the greatest icons of music.   The most recent in this chain of fools appears to be the legendary singer Etta James  (&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;At Last)&lt;/span&gt;.  I thought someone was kidding when I first heard the blurb that she was threatening to "whip Beyonce's ass" and exclaiming that "the guy with the big ears was not her president".   Etta were your meds not adjusted that day or did they take your common sense along with the pounds of fat from your weight   loss surgery?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I'm baffled and a bit embarrassed in that I considered women like Etta James to be part of the generation that is suppose be the keepers of integrity, pride and common sense.  James has joined the ranks of Areth&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SY5cRlHn_MI/AAAAAAAAAC4/DfucfSt3kec/s1600-h/JEA.JPG"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 175px; height: 151px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SY5cRlHn_MI/AAAAAAAAAC4/DfucfSt3kec/s200/JEA.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5300275268553276610" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;a Franklin; you remember how she spewed hateration at Beyonce', who seemingly innocently referred to Tina Turner as the Queen on an awards show.  Prior to that outburst, there was Jennifer Holiday hattin’ on Jennifer Hudson for singing " her song", &lt;i&gt;I'm Not Going. &lt;/i&gt;  Someone should make a video called "Old Divas Gone Wild", featuring  Aretha Franklin, Jennifer Holiday and Etta James.  Did I leave anyone out?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I challenge these ladies who clearly must be bitter as hell despite the fact that they are respected and revered by people around the world.   Nobody can sing R.E.S.P.E.C.T. like the Queen of Soul, but that doesn't mean it isn't room on the throne for other Queens.    Etta, Aretha and Jennifer Holiday get over yourselves.  I only hope that Beyonce’ and the youngins’ will take a lesson from all this.   They live in a time when they don't have the luxury of being the "it girl" for 15 or 20  years.  In today's fast pace, short memory society you're the "it girl in the morning and Rhinanna has replaced you by the afternoon.    If you notice, there is a new King or Queen of Hip-Hop every year.  Luckily these young people understand the nature of the game. They either step aside or keep raising the bar so that who ever steps up to take their reign will have to bring it.  They invoke a "ride a die" attitude to their craft that I applaud.   Now don't get me wrong, they have their share of beefs between artists, however, it's usually more about creating hype to sell more records than anything else.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p class="MsoNormal" face="webdings" style="margin-bottom: 12pt; font-family: trebuchet ms;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SY5dbyqpltI/AAAAAAAAADI/06w4B1UaTJ4/s1600-h/Patti.jpg"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 122px; height: 125px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SY5dbyqpltI/AAAAAAAAADI/06w4B1UaTJ4/s200/Patti.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5300276543500162770" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;As for the "old fools" who let all of their stuff show (sometimes literally... ReeRee).  I ask you to take a lesson from the "Timeless"  Miss. Patti LaBelle.   Though  forever and a day, I will always think of LaBelle when I hear &lt;i&gt; Lady &lt;/i&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;Mamalade,&lt;/span&gt;&lt;i&gt; &lt;/i&gt;Miss.Patti  was not only the epitome of class and grace when Christina Aguilera,  Little Kim and Mya performed the song in  what I think was one of the worst  musicals I've ever watched, Moulin Rouge.  &lt;span style="font-style: italic; color: rgb(102, 0, 204);"&gt;(Please note that my feelings about the movie are not a reflection on the performance of Aguilera, Little Kim and Mya).&lt;/span&gt; Miss. LaBelle applauded the sisters and encouraged  them to keep up the good work and carry on the legacy.   The love that the hip- hop generation has for Miss. LaBelle was recently displayed at the &lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HWzKkK7ncbM"&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;i&gt;&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;i&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HWzKkK7ncbM"&gt;UNCF Parade of Stars-  Salute to Patti LaBelle.&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/i&gt;&lt;/b&gt;  In addition to Fantasia, singers like Chrisette Michelle, and Jennifer Hudson performed musical tributes to Patti LaBelle and had nothing but praise for the example that she has set with her music, but more important, with her generosity and willingness to mentor and cook for up and coming entertainers both male and female.   LaBelle seems to always try to take the high road.  In a recent interview she was asked why she didn't sing at any of President Obama's  inauguration events, she graciously replied, she was not invited to perform, but gave mad props to Aretha Franklin for her performance.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I call upon Etta James, Aretha Franklin and Jennifer Holiday,  who all clearly got caught up in the moment, to not allow their historical legacies to be tainted by a moment when they allowed the worst parts of themselves to show, rather than being a reflection of the Divine gifts  to the world that they were born to be.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p class="MsoNormal" face="webdings" style="text-align: center; font-family: trebuchet ms;" align="center"&gt;&lt;b&gt;Imitation may be the highest form of flattery, but truly, there is no fool like an old fool.&lt;/b&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p style="font-family: trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;!--[if !supportEmptyParas]--&gt; &lt;!--[endif]--&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;  &lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-7855032433269840340?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/7855032433269840340/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=7855032433269840340&amp;isPopup=true' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/7855032433269840340'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/7855032433269840340'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/02/no-fool-like-old-fool.html' title='Etta James and Beyonce: No Fool Like and Old Fool'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SY5cRlHn_MI/AAAAAAAAAC4/DfucfSt3kec/s72-c/JEA.JPG' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-4710679671325664192</id><published>2009-01-25T20:36:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2009-01-27T11:43:58.953-05:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='excellence'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='hope'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='black president'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Black children and Obama'/><title type='text'>Your Son and Daughter Probably Won't Grow Up to Be President</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="font-family:webdings;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 51, 51);"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 153, 0); font-family: verdana;font-family:verdana;" &gt;I am little more than positive that I won't make any new friends and may even lose a few old friends by what I'm about to write.  However, that's okay.  I only asks that you hear me out before you start throwing the stones at me.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana; color: rgb(0, 153, 0);"&gt;  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 153, 0); font-family: verdana;font-family:verdana;" &gt;I too watched in awe, though maybe not as euphoric as some at the swearing in of our nation's 44th president of the United States of America.  Some call him our first black president, first African American, first bi-racial.  Well you get the picture.  As Princeton scholar, Melissa Harris-Lacewell stated, president Obama's selection of Michelle Obama as his wife and the mother of his children is probably one of greatest indicators of his black identity.  But I digress.  Back to the issue at hand.  For the past week I've looked on as black mothers and some fathers wept on the evening news  that they now can tell their children that they too can become anything they want, even president.&lt;/span&gt;  &lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 153, 0); font-family: verdana;font-family:verdana;" &gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Now while this sounds really good in a sound byte, little Ray Ray and NeNe probably have a greater chance of winning the lottery than becoming president of the U.S.  What we need to remember is that Obama had some very unique opportunities, some of which include having a white mother, a continental African father and white mid-western grandparents. In addition, he grew up in Hawaii and lived in Indonesia. A very different cultural legacy and experience than most Black children in America.  Now let's also add the fact that Barack Obama is one smart guy bar none.  In addition, his intellectual genius was cultivated in some of the best schools in America.  Add that to practical experience in community organizing, Chicago boot camp political training and being in the right place at the right time (The U.S. literally in the toilet) and you have President Obama. &lt;/span&gt;  &lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 153, 0); font-family: verdana;font-family:verdana;" &gt;The point I'm making is that we can not ignore the role that intellect, cultural legacy and opportunity play in creating greatness.  So while we are telling our children that they too can become president, we must be equally diligent in investing in their academic future at the same rate that we invest in the latest designer fashions. If you really want little Ray Ray  and NeNe to become president, parents must attend PTA and parent teacher conferences on a regular basis.  We must turn off the TV and Xbox and encourage our children to read and critically think.  Now when I say read, I don't mean Zane or Carl Webber's latest urban lit offering.  Future presidents need a knowledge of world affairs, they need to be able to speak the language of commerce which is not project English, but the King's or at least the Queen's English.  Obama can do barbershop brother to brother talk, but it is his oratory eloquence that won the hearts and minds of Americans across race, class and political ideology.&lt;/span&gt;  &lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 153, 0); font-family: verdana;font-family:verdana;" &gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Though President Obam's election is truly historical, we must couple our excitement with a dose of reality.  One out of one hundred Americans are currently behind bars.  Approximately, 35% of those persons are of African descent.  This sobering reality tells us that our work is just beginning.  I am in full agreement that we should not place limits on our children because of race or class.  However, the "black tax" (twice as good to get half as much) has not been lifted just because we now have a Black president.  In fact, the bar may just have been raised a bit higher.  &lt;/span&gt;   &lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 153, 0); font-family: verdana;font-family:verdana;" &gt;The Keepers of the African village must get busy providing little Ray Ray and NeNe with the tools they will need to navigate a global, multi- racial, multi cultural America. Our children must have at least an intermediate grasp of math and science. More importantly, our children must be emotionally intelligent. We talk about how cool president Obama is, well that coolness is really emotional intelligence. He is a genius at managing his emotions, even in the most complex circumstances.  Obama probably learned at an early age that he would not be able to control the actions and attitudes of those around him, but he could control how he responded to those attitudes.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: verdana; color: rgb(0, 153, 0);"&gt;  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(0, 153, 0); font-family: verdana;font-family:verdana;" &gt;The audacity of hope is indeed alive and well and the dream lives.  However, faith hope and dreams mean nothing without hard work.  The next time you tell your child they can become any thing they want to be including president, remind them that president Obama is a graduate of Harvard law school where he graduated in the top of his class.  That it was was hard work, perseverance, service and being prepared when opportunity presented itself that brought president Obama to the White House.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-4710679671325664192?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/4710679671325664192/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=4710679671325664192&amp;isPopup=true' title='3 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/4710679671325664192'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/4710679671325664192'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2009/01/your-son-and-daughter-probably-wont.html' title='Your Son and Daughter Probably Won&apos;t Grow Up to Be President'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>3</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-3977042533898777447</id><published>2008-12-29T07:45:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2008-12-29T08:03:39.344-05:00</updated><title type='text'>Be It Resolved 2009</title><content type='html'>Since I try my best to live and walk in integrity,  I usually avoid making New Years resolutions.  However, as I approach the big 50, I figured there are few things that I should at least make a concerted effort to improve upon.  So the following is my top 10 be it resolved listed for 2009.  The is tongue and cheek.  I have no problems laughing at myself, so feel free to laugh too.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;1.    Smile more.  I'm beginning to see more wrinkles.&lt;br /&gt;2.   Be more patient.  I've been working on this one for a long time.  But this just might be the year.&lt;br /&gt;3.   Exercise all of my muscles more.  You get my drift. LOL.&lt;br /&gt;4.   Radically change my eating habits and drastically reduce my alcohol consumption. (Not that I'm a&lt;br /&gt;       a candidate for  AA).&lt;br /&gt;5.   Commit to writing something positive on one of my blogs at least twice per week.&lt;br /&gt;6.   Publish my collection of poetry this year.  Okay, I've put it out there.&lt;br /&gt;7.   Expand my social calendar.&lt;br /&gt;8.   Laugh and dance more.&lt;br /&gt;9.   Be more benevolent.&lt;br /&gt;10. Practice (not perfect) unconditional love and forgiveness.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Now there is a huge likelihood that I will break at least half of these resolutions within the first few hours of 2009, but hey, at least I have them on my radar.  On a more serious note, I wish the  rest of the world what I desire for myself: above all  good health, love, joy, peace and prosperity.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;HAPPY NEW YEAR!'&lt;br /&gt;FELIZ  ANOS NUEVE!&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-3977042533898777447?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/3977042533898777447/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=3977042533898777447&amp;isPopup=true' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/3977042533898777447'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/3977042533898777447'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2008/12/be-it-resolved-2009.html' title='Be It Resolved 2009'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-3855848417363695131</id><published>2008-12-14T12:10:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2008-12-24T21:31:38.101-05:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Pants saggng'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='pull your pants up'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='hip-hop.'/><title type='text'>YES WE CAN2:  National Pull Up Your Pants, Pull Down Your Blouse Campaign</title><content type='html'>&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="text-decoration: underline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SUa1jqRU80I/AAAAAAAAABo/9tElFXKTDZM/s1600-h/sagging.jpeg"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 192px; height: 192px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SUa1jqRU80I/AAAAAAAAABo/9tElFXKTDZM/s320/sagging.jpeg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5280107237385499458" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(51, 153, 153);"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:georgia;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt;I must admit that in the beginning I doubted that we could elect a little known,  mixed raced dude from Illinois  president of the United States.   However, the American people were desperate and believed that Obama could bring about change.   So the mantra, "Yes We Can" became "Yes We Did".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt;With the belief in the power of the human spirit to transcend the boundaries of race, class and political ideology to change the face of America politics,   I call on all who believe in change to launch a new campaign I believe we can also win.      For now I'm calling it the&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic; color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt; Pull up Your Pants, Pull Down Your Blouse Campaign.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt;The campaign is aimed at modifying the behavior of primarily young males and females who probably due to no fault of their own, have no sense of ancestral memory or sense of appropriateness.    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:georgia;"&gt;The young men look as if they are wearing a  soiled diaper and the girls look as if they want to be the Pillsbury dough girl.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I believe the male pants sagging trend has single handily contributed to the increase in male incarceration and the rise and prosperity of the prison industrial complex.      It's  hard as hell to run from the Po Po if you can't run because your  pants are around your ankles and you are afraid they will fall off.      Young women seem to be screaming for male or female attention by showing off  their midriffs&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:georgia;"&gt;, even when the midriff is  a pregnant stomach.   Sorry ladies, this does not reflect the beauty of motherhood.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This campaign like the Obama presidential campaign will call for  inter-generational, multi-racial, multi- class participation.      It will require parents, educators and everyday community folk to sport bumper stickers with the slogan BYPU/BYBD and to lovingly admonish those seen sporting the look.       You get the picture.    Because of my faith in the power of strategic marketing and  Obama mania, I think we have the opportunity to end this long over due fashion trend.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;For those of you are more economically minded, there  is something in it for you as well. Thin&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:georgia;"&gt;k about the number of belts that will be sold and the number of young men and women who will be able to contribute to the U. S. economy because they now can actually apply for a job and  seal a business deal with a firm handshake without the worry of showing all of their goodies or lack there of.     Young women can center their focus on the beauty of their minds and what's  above their waist instead of below.   It will allow those who they desire to attract to view them on a much deeper level than mere physicality.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Even some in the hip-hop community feel enough is&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:georgia;"&gt; enough.   Rapper  Da' Priest has written rap song on the issue.    He calls on young black males in particular to stand up and pull their pants up.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt; &lt;span style="color: rgb(153, 102, 51);"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(102, 204, 204);"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(51, 153, 153);"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(153, 102, 51);"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt;Checkout the YouTube video:&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(153, 102, 51);"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;a style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);" href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12UciT0TUYE&amp;amp;feature=re"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(204, 0, 0);"&gt;Pull Your Pants Up!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(204, 102, 0);"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:georgia;"&gt;                                                                                                                          &lt;br /&gt;The origins of this fashion faux pas is said to have began in the prison system due to inmates not being able to have belts for safety reasons.       Others have also said that it suggest a male inmate is sexually available or a man on the outs is open to homosexual activity.     Given the widespread homo-phobia in the hip-hop community I find this unlikely or indeed a bitter irony.      Regardless of the origins, it's past time to put this trend to rest.     The most successful icons in the hip-hop community get it.  They realized that in order to roll in the world of commerce you must dress the part.     Can we all say Jay-Z, Common,  P Diddy and Russell  Simmons.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Of course I expect a backlash from many who feel telling people how to dress is a violation of their right to freedom of expression.   But hey, two years ago and even now, people had a hundred reasons why a black man couldn't or shouldn't be president.     &lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;THE YES WE CAN (2) campaign &lt;/span&gt;will be the icing on the cake for black people in particular and the community at large.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Beginning the week  after president elect Obama's  inauguration,  I will be forming my "virtual" campaign management team.     If you are interested in getting on board, please contact me on this blog.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(255, 102, 0);font-size:130%;" &gt;PULL YOUR PANTS UP/PULL YOUR BLOUSE DOWN 2009!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-3855848417363695131?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/3855848417363695131/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=3855848417363695131&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/3855848417363695131'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/3855848417363695131'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2008/12/yes-we-can2-national-pull-up-your-pants.html' title='YES WE CAN2:  National Pull Up Your Pants, Pull Down Your Blouse Campaign'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SUa1jqRU80I/AAAAAAAAABo/9tElFXKTDZM/s72-c/sagging.jpeg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-6585709426837649301</id><published>2008-12-03T16:33:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2008-12-05T17:03:22.109-05:00</updated><title type='text'>Who Speaks for the Truly Disadvantaged</title><content type='html'>&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/STmjLrY18FI/AAAAAAAAABg/Mkk1QoGwAyk/s1600-h/poverty.jpeg"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 272px; height: 183px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/STmjLrY18FI/AAAAAAAAABg/Mkk1QoGwAyk/s400/poverty.jpeg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5276427859462058066" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;	&lt;meta equiv="CONTENT-TYPE" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"&gt; 	&lt;title&gt;&lt;/title&gt; 	&lt;meta name="GENERATOR" content="OpenOffice.org 2.4  (Linux)"&gt; 	&lt;style type="text/css"&gt; 	&lt;!-- 		@page { size: 8.5in 11in; margin: 0.79in } 		P { margin-bottom: 0.08in } 	--&lt;/style&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(148, 0, 107);font-size:100%;" &gt;&lt;span style="font-family:Ostorah;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;After returning from the manic state of euphoria over the election of the first African American president, I was struck with a difficult reality.  Who speaks for the truly disadvantaged of America?  We know about corporate bailouts, tax cuts for the middle class and tax breaks for the wealthy.  But where are the breaks for the truly marginalized segments of American society.  Where is the poor people's agenda?  Early in the presidential race, John Edwards put forth his agenda for the working poor, but  of course his voice was silenced due to his $400 haircuts and his possible contribution to single motherhood.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 0in; text-decoration: none;" align="left"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(148, 0, 107);font-size:100%;" &gt;&lt;span style="font-family:Ostorah;"&gt;The category of the truly disadvantaged is occupied by poor whites and people of color.  These individuals  lack access not only to financial resources but to jobs and education.  The Workforce Reinvestment Act promised to lift millions of poor people out of poverty, but has been unable to deliver in the face of a nation engaged in two wars and  declining job opportunities across class lines.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ol&gt;&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 0in; text-decoration: none;" align="left"&gt; 	&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/ol&gt; &lt;p style="margin-bottom: 0in; text-decoration: none;" align="left"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(148, 0, 107);font-size:100%;" &gt;&lt;span style="font-family:Ostorah;"&gt;The Obama/Biden poverty agenda promises to expand  job and educational opportunities; increase capital investments to under-served communities; raise the minimum age; help youth connect to jobs; expand earned income credits and make college tuition affordable.  However, in the face of a declining global economy, corporate bailouts for Wall Street and increasing decline of the middle class, will the president and his administration really have time for marginalized black, brown and poor people who don't have an address on Wall Street or Main Street.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p style="margin-bottom: 0in; text-decoration: none;" align="left"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(184, 71, 0);"&gt;&lt;i&gt;&lt;b&gt;What can we do to insure that a poor people's agenda remains on the radar president issues radar? &lt;/b&gt;&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p style="margin-bottom: 0in; text-decoration: none;" align="left"&gt; &lt;/p&gt; &lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-6585709426837649301?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/6585709426837649301/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=6585709426837649301&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/6585709426837649301'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/6585709426837649301'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2008/12/page-size-8.html' title='Who Speaks for the Truly Disadvantaged'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/STmjLrY18FI/AAAAAAAAABg/Mkk1QoGwAyk/s72-c/poverty.jpeg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-1115761955971001562</id><published>2008-10-24T11:36:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2008-11-06T18:21:28.662-05:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='first african american president'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Obama election'/><title type='text'>Where Do We Go From Here: Nov. 5 and Beyond!</title><content type='html'>&lt;div style="text-align: right;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="file:///C:/DOCUME%7E1/user/LOCALS%7E1/Temp/moz-screenshot.jpg" alt="" /&gt;&lt;a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SRIf2PBVCZI/AAAAAAAAAAo/YRGbb0flSto/s1600-h/obama+and+martin.jpg"&gt;&lt;img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 116px; height: 102px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SRIf2PBVCZI/AAAAAAAAAAo/YRGbb0flSto/s320/obama+and+martin.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5265305930955032978" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Nov.5, 2008&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The votes have been counted and Barack Hussein Obama is the 44th president of the United States.    People came to vote,  old young,  black, white, brown, yellow, rich, poor and in the middle.  We came, some blind, cripple, maybe even a little crazy, but no less determined.   We have celebrated with confetti, good music, spirits, tears and a lot of thank you Lords.     What's next for America, what's next for people of color  world wide.    Will the Obama brand be accepted: a black face  sitting on the throne of U.S.  power?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;How do we insure that the election has more than just a historical and symbolic significance?    What can humanity do to insure that we move beyond race and class politics toward a healing of America and the world that our children can safely inherit.    The new era of Obama's leadership will call for a radical shift in paradigms, worldview and praxis.    We will have to be both reflexive and forward thinking in order to enjoy even a modicum of success.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Where do we start the rebuilding process?     Does it start with the economy, health care, foreign policy, especially as it relates to Afghanistan and Iraq.     What does it mean to European Americans to have a man of mix race, African and Caucasian calling the shots?     What will it mean to people of color to have a person who at least in hue looks more like them than any other president?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Throughout the presidential campaign the media suggested that America had suddenly become color blind.    I have a funny feeling that now that   Obama has been elected the lens of race with take center stage.     What will happen now that the celebration is over and the real work begins.     Will the still white male dominated Congress be able to get behind a black man;  even a Harvard educated,  mixed race, raised with mid-Western European values one ?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;America is at the nadir of its existence on the world stage.       How do we rise out of the ashes of eight  years of GW?      How do we begin to heal the scars and redirect  our moral, social, and economic compass toward justice for all,  rather than a few.     What I  know for sure is that now it is our time to raise the bar on ourselves and thus make our government including president elect Obama accountable.    The fight will be long and hard,  so much has been lost  (i.e. our civil liberties, jobs, homes and our  respect around the world).  The brother has truly inherited a huge pot of dung.    He  will need all of  the moral fiber, testicular fortitude and a continued belief in the audacity of hope he can muster.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As African Americans we must not get caught up in the caught up.   We must not be naive enough to believe that one black man alone can change our destiny.  We must seize the moment.     Get involve in your local government, get knowledgeable about who your state's U.S. senators and representatives are.    Become active in writing them to let them know the national public policy agenda you would like to see.     It is the responsibility of every American citizen to frame the political debate.    If the Obama administration is  to represent a true participatory democracy, we must speak up and out on behalf of those who are voiceless or just plain unwilling.   We must speak with one voice for radical k-12 education reform, jobs and  living- wages for all who desire  and are able to work .    We must advocate for access to affordable quality health care for every child, woman and man.    More importantly, we must demand that the young men and women in our arm forces are brought home safely and timely.     No longer should we sacrifice our young in the name of oil under the guise of democracy.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;We have made the ancestors proud with this historic moment.     Now let's put our heads and hearts together and see what world we can make that is a worthy inheritance for our young and the beautiful ones not yet born.    I challenge each of you as I challenge myself to make the historic election of Barack Hussein Obama more that just a symbol, but a true reflection of what can happen when humanity comes together with a common vision of hope and possibility.    I commit to do and be more to insure that my grandsons, Jaden and Jeremiah inherit a future that insures them a quality education, affordable health care, a living wage and a planet that is sustainable, greener and healthier for all.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;My prayers and meditations go out to the Obama family.    The love that Barack and Michelle show for each other and their children speaks to the revolutionary power of love to uplift and to heal.    I pray that God will keep them strong as a unit and that the Creator's circle of protection will guide them as they attempt to carryout the duties of  the Commander and Chief.    To paraphrase  words from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.'s historic  speech, &lt;span style="font-style: italic;"&gt;" Where Do We Go From Here",  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;"&gt;" the  plant of freedom as grown another bud, but it still is not a flower." (16 August, 1967). &lt;/span&gt;    There is much to do, let's get to work to insure that the bud of freedom, love and democracy is transformed into a beautiful flower of hope and prosperity  for all humanity.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;                                                                                               &lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"&gt;YES WE CAN, YES WE DID AND YES WE WILL&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"&gt;!!!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-1115761955971001562?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/1115761955971001562/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=1115761955971001562&amp;isPopup=true' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/1115761955971001562'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/1115761955971001562'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2008/10/where-do-we-go-from-here-nov-5-and.html' title='Where Do We Go From Here: Nov. 5 and Beyond!'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/SRIf2PBVCZI/AAAAAAAAAAo/YRGbb0flSto/s72-c/obama+and+martin.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-484272522991252405</id><published>2008-10-20T16:51:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2008-11-11T11:49:32.331-05:00</updated><title type='text'>I'll  Take a Mammy Over a Video Hoe: On the Secret Life of Bees</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;"&gt;Recently I viewed the new movie, "The Secret Life of Bees" with a star studded cast of Queen Latifah, Alicia Keys, Dakota Fanning, Jennifer Hudson, Sophie Okonedo, Nate Parker and Tristan Wilds.  The film is based on the novel by Sue Monk Kidd, which was a New York Times bestseller.  Set in 1964, on the dawn of the Civil Rights Act, in the still separate and unequal South.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;"&gt;Visually the film is extremely appealing against the backdrop of beautiful South Carolina.  What makes the film more amazing is that it was adapted for the screen and directed by Gina Prince-Bythewood and produced by Overbrook Productions (Will and Jada making that pape).&lt;/span&gt; African-American cast, director, producer.  How often does this happen in America?  No pimps, hoes, or gratuitous profanity.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;"&gt;Though I saw it coming, I wanted to give us the benefit of the doubt.  Of course each person is allowed their perception or opinion of a movie.  Many have come out to say the movie represents black women as Mammies and some saw especially Queen Latifah's character as a Mammy.  What saddens me is I don't see this kind of outrage when the video hoes are paraded across the screen daily as representations of black womanhood and the outcry is a decibel above a whisper. Few seem to have a problem with black women who can barely string a sentence together and the only tools they utilize is a body that will fade far too soon.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;"&gt;I'll take a Mammy over a video ho any day.   The women in "Secret Life"  are smart, cultured, independent, entrepreneurial and have the capacity for love even in the mist of white supremacy at its worst.  The women are able to transcend the boundaries of race and class, knowing that anything that's loved can be saved: even a poor little motherless white girl that's been rejected by her father and an uneducated black woman whose only crime is her desire to register to vote.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;"&gt;Sadly as a people we have internalized our oppression to the point we are blind to our beauty and power.  We as a community and the whole of humanity could take some lessons from the Boatwright sisters.   Though fictional, the characters in this movie recognize the revolutionary power of love to heal and transform lives.    June's  character played by Alicia Keys almost misses out on love, because she is nearly consumed by the struggle for civil rights and her need for independence.   But it is the Mammy in August(Queen Latifah) that reminds her that there is always room for love and to reach out to those less fortunate. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;"&gt;Rather than internalizing the negatives stereotypes of black women that have haunted us throughout our journey in these dis- United Sates, I choose to see the characters in "Secret Life" as part of our historical legacy as African people.  In my mind, it stands to reason that the Mitochondrial &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;"&gt;mother of all humanity would also be the nurturer and mother to the world.  Those of limited vision failed to look beyond the Southern drawl and the homely clothes and see proud black women empowered because they define themselves, they own the land that they live on and their means of survival.   Name me one video hoe, including Karrine Steffans who can claim the same. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family:verdana;"&gt;The bees in "Secret Life" represent a powerful metaphor not just for black people but for the whole of humanity.   We must be more like the bees and think we/us, rather than me/I  if the planet is to survive.     In the coming days, with our without Obama as commander and chief, we will have to find the capacity to love beyond racial, gender and class lines.  Love is a revolutionary act and it is indeed the only thing that can heal our world.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To each his own, but I'll take a independent honey making Mammy over a video hoe any day.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;#######################################################&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-484272522991252405?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/484272522991252405/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=484272522991252405&amp;isPopup=true' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/484272522991252405'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/484272522991252405'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2008/10/ill-take-mammy-over-video-hoe-on-secret.html' title='I&apos;ll  Take a Mammy Over a Video Hoe: On the Secret Life of Bees'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-5318645239825732899</id><published>2007-11-25T09:55:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2007-11-25T10:00:22.489-05:00</updated><title type='text'>You Better Back That Thing Up</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="font-weight:bold;"&gt;Sister You Better Back that Thang Up&lt;br /&gt;By akazia-juneé&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;    &lt;br /&gt;Hey sister friend with the firm breast, small waist, and tight behind.  You better back that thing up before age and gravity takes all that shit and heads South.  Nah,  ain’t nothing wrong with shakin what ya mama gave ya, but sister, you better back that thang up.  Back that thing up with a mastery of technology, psychology, and phenomenology.  Sister you’d better back that thing up with an awareness that though you were born in the projects – the projects were not born in you.  Sisters you better back that thang up.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sister you better back that thang up with a made- up mind that education and the ability to do for self is what you need.  Now don’t think I’m hatin', cause I’m only statin`, you ain’t a bitch, you a Queen.  Seed of humankind.  The first, the last, before you there were none, after you there shall be no more.  Sister, you better back that thang up.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sister, you better back that thang up- cause you stand on the shoulders of ancestral mothers that endured oppression in its highest form so the you could proclaim that “ I’m Every Woman.”  Sisters like Queen Hatshepsut, Maria Stewart, Zora Neal Hurston, Sara Vaughn, Billy Holiday, Ida B. Wells, Sojourner Truth.  Sister, you better back that thang up.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sister you better back that thang up.  I know that Wild Women don’t get no blues, but you better insist no glove, no love.  Cause AIDS and other STDS are killing us by the thousands. Walk away from that abusive relationship and embrace the lover within. Sister, you better back that thang up.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sister you better back that thang up by joining in solidarity with brothers who respect you for your mind, body and spirit, rather than a wet hole to lay the wood.  Join in love with brothers who want to be more than just yo baby’s daddy: but a life partner ready to help raise a nation.  Sisters you better back that thang up.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sister you better back that thang up with the words of Anna Julie Cooper, who said, “only the Black woman can say when and where I enter, in the quiet of my womanhood, without violence.  Then and there the whole African race enters with me.”  Sister, you better back that thang up.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sister you better back that thang up with a strong relationship with Mother, Father God.  Knowing that nothing is impossible if we only trust.  Sister as you embrace Y2K and a new millenium, I’m telling you- Sister, you better back that thang up! Sister you better back that thang up!  Sister, you better back that thang up!  And I ain’t talking about your hard drive.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;©1999&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-5318645239825732899?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/5318645239825732899/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=5318645239825732899&amp;isPopup=true' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/5318645239825732899'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/5318645239825732899'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2007/11/you-better-back-that-thing-up.html' title='You Better Back That Thing Up'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4777575364980338769.post-3208152519863138134</id><published>2007-10-09T15:10:00.001-04:00</published><updated>2007-10-09T15:16:49.379-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Toward a Plan for Radical Education Reform</title><content type='html'>TOWARD A PLAN FOR RADICALLY CHANGING PUBLIC EDUCATION&lt;br /&gt; &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;None of the major presidential candidates has set forth a plan of action for the improvement of public education for K-12.  “No Child Left Behind” has failed in its efforts due to lack of funding, unrealistic performance indicators and the absence of a genuine commitment to education reform on the part of government officials, schools and community leaders.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sound education reform will create learning communities where critical thinking, rather than the regurgitation of socially irrelevant information is the guiding principle.  At present, rather than making genuine efforts toward radical reform, systems focus on school uniforms, school vouchers and incentive programs that bribe students into coming to school.  It matters not that little if any real learning is taking place.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt; A presidential candidate with a real plan for education will set forth a multi- centric approach based on shared leadership among policy makers, teachers, students, parents and the broader community.  Genuine reform calls for a return to basic educational philosophies, including character building, life skills development, art, music, and culture; married to and integrally linked to the 3R’s of reading, writing and arithmetic.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Students must be encouraged to critically think and evaluate the myriad of information and concepts that are thrown at them through popular media.  Practical application of learning concepts into daily life is more important than ever.  Focus must be given to the individual learning styles of students and educational learning models must be developed that address the needs of the whole child.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Trained, license social workers and other human service delivery professionals must play an active role in the daily lives of students.  Teachers should be freed up to teach rather than burdened with administrative and social service responsibilities.&lt;br /&gt;It is time for us to move from the “paralysis of analysis” toward a plan of action with a division of labor that clearly defines the roles and responsibilities of key stakeholders.  Never has the need for radical change and reform been greater.  Our children deserve better than our present system.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4777575364980338769-3208152519863138134?l=akaziaj.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/feeds/3208152519863138134/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4777575364980338769&amp;postID=3208152519863138134&amp;isPopup=true' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/3208152519863138134'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4777575364980338769/posts/default/3208152519863138134'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://akaziaj.blogspot.com/2007/10/toward-plan-for-radical-education.html' title='Toward a Plan for Radical Education Reform'/><author><name>AkaziaJ.</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/06595277116582547220</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='20' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_bTZp0fELnD4/TBRdOoVPYmI/AAAAAAAAAFY/9yKY7obiYrg/S220/Akazia+N+pink.JPG'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry></feed>
